Adult ADHD Relationships

Adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) and their partners will benefit from this video on sharing responsibility -- without one partner's inconsistencies or another partner's nagging causing relationship problems.

A contributor to ADDitude, a resource for ADHD families, Melissa Orlov is a co-author of Married to Distraction and the author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage.

http://www.adhdmarriage.com/about_dr_hallowell.html
http://www.additudemag.com/authorID/337.html

This video was made for http://www.additudemag.com/adhdblogs

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• ADHD
• ADD
• Adult ADHD
• Marriage
• Dating
• Relationships

[NeSsBiCh]

@ladymurasaki1000 dont label us please. im 18 been with my gf for 3 and half years still counting. Cheating has nothing to do with adhd in my opinion

[ladymurasaki1000]

My advise is to not date/have a relationship with someone with ADHD. There also pathological lairs and should be institutionalized for there own good. Yes there are ones that are that bad. I lived with one for three years and he drove me crazy and then cheated on me with a stripper and broke my heart. You have been warned this can happen!

[psementalist]

I have ADHD and I have been married for 14yrs its not easy for me or my wife but she does a good job of helping me.

[HawkMoondance]

@dorotheainmiddle Well, I'm really not interested in an argument.

I'm sorry you feel so abused. Personally, I've never met an ADD person that could be considered "disabled" just because they had ADD. Therefore, there's no reason to feel defensive. :D

You make it sound so debilitating! Yeesh!! It's really not. It's not even problematic. You simply have to know your strengths and weaknesses just like everybody else.

[dorotheainmiddle]

@HawkMoondance Oh, you're just trying to flatter yourself on your disability: self-defense mechanism.

[HawkMoondance]

@dorotheainmiddle Well, you almost have to get in a relationship with another ADD person. Unfortunately, for someone that works for an ADD magazine, Melissa Orlov still presents a negative view of ADD and treats it like a disease. It's not.  But, just like in childhood, it's really annoying over time to deal with "slow" and intolerant people. To someone with ADD, people without it are, unfortunately, slow and just generally not on the same page. Seek someone like you.

[CuteblackBW]

I had ADHD and I am a caregiver. Now am I better than someone who doesn't have it, well that would be up to the person who is receiver the care. ADHD affects people in different ways and generalizing helps no one.

[dorotheainmiddle]

I can't figure out why anyone would want to stay in a relationship with someone who has ADHD. There's no mutuality. You take care of them but they can't take care of you. They're always the center of attention. If not, they wander off. They don't remember anything you say. I've never heard anyone say ADHD truly gets much better. The best people can do is cope with it. How depressing.