Jay's Coming Out Story Part Two

Hi this is part two to my first coming out video. if you havent seen part one please watch that first. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R_Gc6I0Tdu8 I want to thank Ghostydog1919 & PKBPKBPKB for thier questions. Please be good to yourselfs. As Rupaul would say "How the Hell you going to love anybody else untill you love yourself"

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[SpoonerSpecter]

hey could you give me some advice, I'm 15 ( almost 16 ) and in high school, I've known i was gay since i was about 10 or 11 and I just accepted it about a year ago, i feel ready to come out but I'm just scared about how some people will react and how some people will take it. I've just got this terrible fear that it wont go over well but i wanna be who i am and find someone :((

[depfox]

@SpoonerSpecter This Oct 11th is national coming out day and we are going to make a video...It is different for every person when coming out...just be careful and dont put yourself in a bad place.

[101starwarsfan]

you said that out of 5 siblings, 3 of them are gay. You also said that your father dishoned you, but did he dishone your other gay siblings?

[depfox]

@101starwarsfan yes my oldest sister came out at the early age of 16 and my father tossed her out of the house...Then I waited to come out till I got out of the Army I was 22 my father wouldnt have anything to do with me after that...My younger brother didnt come out till after my father had died.

[mentonerodominicano]

The saddest part was your ex-girlfriends abortion. Your "frustation" about what the kid would've been like is a proof that an abortion will follow you 'till death.

[depfox]

@mentonerodominicano not only will it follow me it defines me....I have wanted to be a father ever since that day.....I think it is why I am such a good father to my children because I know that somewhere there was a child my child that didnt make it.

[jambbar]

It's crazy because my brother is in jail for murder and my mother visits him every week, but when I came out my mom don't call, email, visit or anything and she know where I live. So in her eyes killing someone is better than being gay.

[Gayheros]

Through all of this wisdom and advice, I can't stop drooling over those star wars figures...lol. Oh, and you're really sexy. I love that your face matches your voice. Yeah I know that's pretty superficial in light of everything being discussed, but I just had to say it...:-)

[lovessox]

Jay apparetnly your father did not know what a wonderful man you have become! I enjoy watching your videos and find them inspiring.

[FANNYLEROUX]

passed on to the other side.

It's a comfort for me know because it's nice to think that youre being looked over by someone who cares for you and is looking out for you.

I don't believe in all this ghosts and stuff, but i do believe that we have someone or something looking out for us, that has our best interests at heart. It'd be the same thing that stopped you from drowning when you tried. Something / someone clearly wants you here, it's nice to try and know who or what :)

[FANNYLEROUX]

Jay, i dont know if it's something you would ever consider, but about a year or two before i was born, my mum sufferd a miscarrage for what would have been my sister. My mother often goes to see spiritualist people, who claim to be able to pass on messages.

I think it could be kinda sweet if you went and saw one (even if you went by yourself and had a private reading). It could be like what my mum has been told a few times, that my sister is being brought up by her family that have....

[Alishia52]

I love love love watching your videos :] :] :]

[cautleen]

These videos are so valuable and never too long. I could listen to them over and over again, and i could listen for an even longer time. Thank you for sharing your life and your stories with all of us. You offer something to kids, to adults, to parents, to those who come or once came from abuse. And you are so genuine. Thank you. One thing, as a sherriff, could you just remind kids to be safe or on their own before coming out? Nurse here, & I'm sure we've both seen too many kids on the street.

[Zippy1169]

I just watched your two coming out videos. Wow theawkwardone is right you are amazing. I particularly liked your advice to your second commenter. I am 43 and just coming to turns with the fact that I have lived a false straight life. Now I am in the process of trying to untangle the web I have built while trying to minimize hurt and anguish for my children and wife. Please people don't pretend to be something your not, in the long run it will hurt others and YOU.

[halliebell6]

I watch you and Bryan all the time, I think the two of you are helping so many young gay people, we all love the videos, Thank you for sharing your life and Family with us ♥♥♥♥

[luvtwinkie1993]

My friend was in the same situation during our senior year in high school she was 17 & pregnant.She was thinking about having an abortion but her bf really wanted to keep the child and promised to always be there for her(he had a well paying job)After 2 months after having the baby he left her and went off to college.Not saying you would've have done the same but I could understand your gf situation. Idk what happen with my friend b/c I joined the Army & lost contact but I hope she's doing well

[xephyr1000]

Thanks for sharing your story, Jay