Dealing with Social Anxiety

It's important when it comes to social anxiety to:
- Understand and recognize your behavior and what you are doing wrong when you get into social situations
- What is it that you do nowadays that keeps making you feel this way? What do you do to compensate?
- Who do you WANT to be / how do you WANT to react to the things that happen to you?
- What are your good qualities? How can you use them when it comes to social anxiety?

Working on your social anxiety could decrease your SI.
Because most of the time they are related.

I'll try to make a part 2 about social anxiety very soon, because I think there is so much more to say about all this. It feels like i've only covered the top of the iceberg in this video. Any suggestions?

Yes it's the same video as the one on SelfHarmSupport ;)
So don't bother watching it again, if you've seen it already ;)

Self harm & Social Anxiety. I'm taking the questions in a different direction. I'm focusing on the social aspect that lies within these questions.

1. Do you ever feel paranoid that people know that you SI?

2. If so does it stop you from taking part in everyday activities? (e.g going out in town, meeting friends)

3. If so how do you deal with/overcome these feelings of paranoia?

Leave a comment if you want to :)

Take care everyone!
Love,
Bas

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[mwinnful]

I completely get that, I also play parts with everyone which is why I never connect to anybody properly! It's so easy to understand other people with BPD, all these comments and videos on this great channel really help thank you so much :)!

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@mwinnful You're welcome! :)

[KeegBurkholder]

I think what you are doing is awesome. I have struggled with social anxiety the majority of my life. Though the strange thing has been, I can give a talk to a room full of people with no problem. Thank you for teaching on such vulnerable issues!!!

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@KeegBurkholder you're welcome

[BRXBOMBER88]

What is SI?

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@BRXBOMBER88 self injury

[RapidCycling07]

I truly admire you Bas. I wish I could meet someone like you in person to be friends with. I don't know if you realize the positive effect that you are having on many people's lives with your videos. You are like an angel.

I respect this man...

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@tsiddharthan90 Hi there :)

Thank you for your comment.

I only do YouTube. I am not so great with writing since i am dyslectic.

Take care.

[tsiddharthan90]

can i get your mail id ?

[SBWielinga]

@MeAndMyBlackTable Totally unnecessary indeed... in fact, I suspect some women may even find it attractive (I know I don't mind a mole like that on an attractive woman).

From my own social anxiety (which is thankfully mostly in the past) I know it's easy to think of many things you're doing wrong in social situations, but 99% of those things aren't even noticed at all in my experience.

BTW, to me you seem very gentle, open and confident. You're probably doing a much better job than you think :-)