january 13, 2011: angry (adopted) asian girl

please excuse my rant.

Category:

People & Blogs

Tags:

• korean
• adoption
• adoptee
• asian
• american

[123comment456]

adoptees should not feel pressured to feel grateful and should not feel guilty for not feeling grateful. they can feel whatever they want to feel. it's all correct and acceptable. also i hope people don't lower korea. there is poor people here but there is poor people in all the other countries too. also the adoptive parents is not higher than the birth family. adoptees should not have to feel forced to say only nice things about the host country/family. they are carrying the most burden :(

[Espeizacion]

you are extremely articulate, clear and amazingly kind considering the topic. I hope one day I will be able to respond to the views that frustrate me as well as you did.

[smallbird5]

who cares if you were adobted...u have parents...as i do, and my best friend, and my cousins who were adoted. just be greatful you have parents...alot of ppl dont look like their blood parents, soooooooooo wuuuuuuuuut. its like skin color...who freakin cares if your skin is purple!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[koyfishie9]

Very well put. I have so much respect for you.

[Christina314]

Don't keep your comments to yourself. People get on youtube and just say the most hateful ignorant things because they can hide their identity when in reality they'd never say such things in their normal life because they KNOW they are stupid. The fact that you can go on camera and expose your personal feelings in such a way shows more courage than these people like nursewithapurse.

[energylots]

Screw this user Steph, nursewithapurse must have no life at all. A person like this deserves no attention.

[omnomization]

Thank you very much for making this video. I think a lot of the tongue-in-cheek comments that are thrown at adoptees are completely unfair. There's no shame in wanting to know your biological parents - the people that say otherwise don't or won't understand this fact simply because they themselves don't have another set of mysterious parents running around in a far off country.

[KAmarineboy2012]

you go girl

[activenon]

in the end, while you envy the korean youth who identify themselves well with their same oriental looking sisters. those very korean youth would envy you being well off and live in more matured social system than korea in terms of gender equity. again, social pressure is LETHAL. doesn't matter what kind of social pressure. since i know the social pressure you would feel as a black dot in white cloth i won't say you should feel grateful. but don't forget no adoption is not equal to happier life.

[activenon]

but, you know? as much as the isolation you feel as an only oriental-looking american would make yourself die, the helplessness korean girls feel when they cannot stand cultural pressure and social bullying against them make them die too. so it's tragedy on both sides. i don't wanna ignore your suffering. but you should not ignore the suffering as a korean woman. you are definitely saved from those lethal psyche in the general society in korea because only you're on american side.