Don't Settle...Get a Man on Your Level (Part 1)

People may often say that it is your responsibility to lower your standards and "date down" or "marry down." However, if you strove to make something of yourself, it's only fair that you ask as much of a lifelong mate as you've asked of yourself.

In addition to love, moral values, family values, beliefs, etc., there is no shame in also considering whether a potential life partner is as education-oriented and goal-oriented and about as successful as you are. If education and the process of setting, striving for and achieving goals are things you admire about yourself and desire to pass down to your children, there's no shame if you'd prefer for the man you choose to father them to set that example.

Be cautious of those who put effort into tearing down your standards rather than rising to meet them. Those who call you "gold-digger" for wanting a partner who pulls his own weight in the relationship are probably the gold-diggers themselves, looking for YOU to be their meal ticket.

This is an interracial channel, thus I used only interracial photos as examples. I shouldn't even have to explain myself - so if you make me do so by feigning confusion, you will be blocked, and meanwhile the video's title and content will remain unchanged.

Thanks to my friend Gloryus84 for suggesting the title of the video. :)

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[Monikblessed]

I absolutely Love your work. I wish I could speak with you over the phone. I believe the point of your videos is that love is love and that black women do not have to settle as we are often told. It took me a long time to learn this lesson, and at the age of 45 and still single, I feel empowered when I watch your videos. Peace and many blessings to you.

[SexyVelour]

@Monikblessed

Thanks, Monikblessed. It's really nice that you actually understood what the video means (sadly, you're one of the few), and I'm so happy to hear that the message empowered you. Wishing you all blessings in love and life...

[Hauraunah]

It's about damn time. Sistas aren't moving on quick enough. I get much more respect for just BEING a black woman than I do from black men, but then again I've never bee attracted to black men. I like my nappy hair, and so do white guys.

[thereason93]

Opposites are attractive for each other.

[aligned576]

This is a great video. It's all about finding someone on your level. Thanx for sharing.

[Lozie82]

@Hauraunah Lol that's funny cuz a lot of times you see the black girl with the afrocentric hairstyle with the white guy

[MegaFELIPE48]

A very interesting video clip.

[amlinr]

Yes, I really agree here although at nineteen I settled. Twenty-eight years, four children and seven grands later, If only I married up, my life would be so different, the dreams, hopes, plans... but no white men wanted this black queen so I settled...........down

[Velouroyale]

@shyvixx1 Thanks for sharing my videos and for the encouragement. :)

[Velouroyale]

@JwahAmore31 It's great. You can see more about Princess Angela in my other video, "Your Prince Will Come." Angela is not American or Brit at all; she is Panamanian, from the Caribbean island Boca del Toro. She and Prince Max met in New York City.

There's another black woman who is European royalty as well: Baroness Cecile, wife of Christian Louis de Mass of Monaco. The third is Countess Mary, who is African and married to Ferdinand Leopold Joseph Count von Habsburg of Austria.

[JwahAmore31]

OH, WOW!!! I just shed some tears upon viewing the the Princess of Liectenstein!!! I'm nearly 40 yrs. old, and NEVER in my life did I imagine there'd be an African Am./Brit. woman ROYAL in a European court!!! I'm so very PROUD! If there was ever a, 'You go, girl,' moment, it's certainly THIS ONE! Thank you for posting this video,,, massive STAR WARS fan and to see 'our' Melanie and George? AWESOME! - J

[shyvixx1]

i use your videos to show my friends that there are options and many are seeing there are. you are doing good work!

[Missy2012NY]

This is a beautiful video!