Visual Assaults - eye contact for aspies

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[BullzeyePrO]

Haha what happend at 0:03? xD

[miasansom]

@BullzeyePrO it's a tic I have. I know, right? It happens at the worst times sometimes too. People always look at me funny too. So embarrassing. It's like a quick gasp caused by some kind of weird contraction in my diaphragm. I've always had it. Funny thing is, on some days I get a series of hiccups, and on others it's this weird tic. There are never days where I get both - it's always one or the other. Useless info for you!

[BullzeyePrO]

@miasansom Oh so it's tics, I just reacted because it sounded sexy. xD I have tics too. My friends have noticed I release some strange sound after sentences or after I have been focusing hard on something like when I smash a ball with a racket. I also have something with my eyes(twitching or something) and people often imitate that to offend me but I don't care. When I was younger it did hurt me, but not anymore. Wish ya all best

[miasansom]

@BullzeyePrO lol yeah I get that a lot.

[PinkPunkyKat]

Why don't you just ignore them or flip them off? That's what I do.

[miasansom]

@PinkPunkyKat I'll try that and see how it goes...

[Hungrybear9562]

I have been stared at all my life, I learned to not let it bother me. When people fist get to know me and spend time with me in public, (and I am talking about pre fame) they would remark on how people always stare at me, I always said I stopped paying attention to it a long time ago. It's helpful to be a giant Cagefighter.

[FredericaBimble]

@misspinkpunkykat - Me too! When I walk down the street, men will stare and to me, it looks really aggressive, like hateful so I often wonder if they think it looks 'attractive.' When I was younger, I would say how much I can't stand people staring and some would say,"'it's because you're 'pretty'." I never understood that. As if you aren't allowed to have your privacy because someone else might 'like what they see.'

[misspinkpunkykat]

@FredericaBimble I always found eye contact as a threat. Come to think of it humans are the only species that dosen't find it as a threat. Even our supposed closest relatives, chimpanzees don't make eye contact unless they are trying to threaten each other.

[FredericaBimble]

@misspinkpunkykat - Lol... I wonder if other aspies have this phenomenon of not being able to feel fear unless the stimulus is really extreme. Men have approached me to talk to me and I've not responded in the way they think women should act and they've projected their own beliefs onto me with, 'oh, are you scared?' I used to say, 'No, I want you to get the fuck out of my face!' I don't have to do that anymore because I walk around with earphones in and I'm older and men tend to ignore me now.

[FredericaBimble]

I know exactly what you mean. I can't stand when men STARE at me. OMG! When you said, 'I didn't give them permission to talk to me.' That is EXACTLY what I think. Why are they talking to me?! The staring? I used to look at those who stared and it took me about 25 years to learn that men think you 'fancy them' and then you have to put up with their bull sh*t by having them come and talk to you. Eye contact definitely doesn't mean the same for everyone.

[misspinkpunkykat]

I don't like talking to people either. Espically strangers. When total strangers try and innicate conversation with me I say, "Why are you talking to me? I don't even know you? So if you don't want me shoving my fist down your throat, you will leave me alone."

[misspinkpunkykat]

Make faces or stick your tounge out at them.If they won't back off, flip them the middle finger.

[legrandzilla]

I guess this answers my question about you.. Sorry Mia, that sounds terrible..

[TheLcstyle]

I avoid eye contact with most people, but I do feel the same when people look into your eyes, it's too intrusive.