Why Are Arranged Marriages So Successful? - Episode #55

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The U.S. has a divorce rate of about 55%. In comparison India has a divorce rate of about 1%. One of the differences is that in India many of the marriages are arranged by the families. I look at how such arranged marriages implicitly use The Four Factors.

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Education

Tags:

• divorce
• divorce rate
• marriage
• arranged marriages
• india
• family

[Ashluv1988]

I am from India.. and actually this is a great insight.. Yes... Parents know their children well.. there is lot of bonding between parents & children here.. In fact even my grandparents live with us & they too were a part in deciding my fiance ..!! we accept here that due to age and experience elders know far better than us.. whether it is judging people or taking decisions..we need to be humble enuf to consider they know better.. instead of thinkin that we always kno more than any1 else..

[TheFourFactors]

@Ashluv1988 well said. thanks for the comments!... ron

[mba2ceo]

#1 reason for divorce is marriage. Divorce is 100% preventable. #2 reason Women rights.

[TheFourFactors]

@mba2ceo wow. pretty bold statements. can you elaborate a bit?

[dreamerstays]

Type "percentage of divorce initiated by women" in google and o to divorce lawyer source. I cant find the current one but above mentions that in no fault divorce states its greater than 70%

Wiki they mentioned around 71% in 1975 and 65% in 1988.

[TheFourFactors]

@dreamerstays very interesting statistics. thanks for providing these!

[scorpio857]

Very well said. I am gad you mentioned that the parents let the kids decide if they want to get married. A lot of people including many Indians are under the impression that parents suggest a partner and it's final. It might be true in certain villages but definitely not in bigger towns and cities. Parents give the kids the liberty to choose and introduce them to several people. Also, in an arranged marriage, you have a wider choice since you get to meet new people.

[Ashluv1988]

Reason y it is a success can also b due 2 the mindset to accept 1's spouse 4 who they r rather than try 2 to fit them into d big list of expectations (each 1 has good or bad in them!) ..plus Women/men r willin compromise & give in, to prevent trauma to their children! any child needs both parents so they set aside any differences & live 4 them instead of optin divorce..now u kno why thier children wud let their parents decide 4 them! plus1 is happier as a big family than anythin else.. :)

[wholelover]

I agree with the facts, adding that not just arranged marriages work best but also spontaneous marriages, where two strangers marry. However, India has other factors affecting them, such as decreased number of women. That means that a woman is becoming more and more important, hence decreased divorce rates.

[verrrr1]

@zenobiacarmel you are open minded

[dreamerstays]

It would be interesting to see divorce rates of love marriage vs arranged marriage in Asian countries. In the west it is convenient for women to divorce, they get bored with husband because he works long hours for family, lot of women press abuse charges without any mercy and take his money and bang other guys in the house he worked hard for...also theres an article about how friends discuss divorcing their husband and have fun after that, steal his money etc. Please wake up pussified manginas