Reading My Hatemail - Stanek Edition

Here, I read my hate that I had received on Jill Stanek's website. Just listen to the "Christian Love" flowing from these people...

http://goldencoathanger.com/2011/03/29/hatemail-that-homegrown-transphobia/

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[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu I have contemplated it but I'm not sure if I could be a lawyer. I value honesty too much and I could never see myself becoming an attorney for that very reason.

[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu Well, why would a transsexual woman using the women's restroom be any more concerning than a cissexual woman? Often, when Focus on the Family or some other anti-gay anti-trans group makes such dire predictions whenever, you'll find that their predictions are wrong and the restroom remained as safe as it was before the laws that allowed equal access were passed.

Compare this to the high potential of harm if you force a transsexual woman to use the incorrect (male) bathroom.

[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu Thank you for that. I still have quite a ways to go in my own transition but it's always nice to hear that and plus, getting big things like SRS out of the way earlier in the game than most really gives some good encouragement and momentum.

[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu Of course, I am all for disclosure but for different reasons - namely the safety of the transperson in question. And of course, in that respect, I believe that disclosure should be done in a semi-public place, like maybe at a restaurant. But honestly, I feel that it shouldn't be accorded more relevance than where I went to high school, any other surgeries someone might have had, etc.

[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu Angie's story left a true scar across the community. However, it's hard to imagine something like that happening in Denver. I've only had a couple of bad experiences related to my TS-ness here that I remember. One was inconsequential, when some moron screamed "Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve" at me on the 16L. The other was when I quit my job at Bolder Calls in Boulder because I was told that I was not allowed to use the ladies room because I was pre-op at that time.

[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu Furthermore, there is all sorts of violence committed against transgender people still going on, even to this day. Angie Zapata was beaten to death by a man who she had known sexually, with a fire extinguisher. This was just up in Greeley, so it's not something that happened in a worse state like Texas. So, given that, I hope you can see the potential problems with disclosure at first meeting.

[JessicaSideways]

@AmanteTu While that does have a sort of positive spin on it, it takes a darker turn towards the end and I'll tell you why. Ultimately, you don't tell a person all of your biological deformities or problems on first meeting. And some transsexual women (myself included) would like to get to know a person first before we have "the conversation", so that they can see us as ourselves and not some freak fresh off the set of Jerry Springer.

[JessicaSideways]

@n4kma And yet, you won't tell me why I'm wrong and why abortion hurts and exploits women? I'd really like to hear this because I honestly believe that abortion helps women and gives them increased power to make choices about their body. Sites like "Thanks, Abortion!" and "I'm Not Sorry" have a number of stories from women who do not regret their abortion.

I could also say that the Maternity Homes of yesteryear and the CPCs of today do more harm. Google "Shotgun Abortion" and "Disembabyment"

[n4kma]

Your mother and your family are right on the issue of abortion. You are wrong. Abortion hurts and exploits women.

[DaFawky]

LOL it sounds like they are the ones who are confused.

The point of being transgendered is that you KNOW you are transgendered. If you were "confused" about your gender, then you wouldn't be diagnosed as such! These people are the ones who are confused about your medical condition, and project their confusion onto you. If they passed basic biology they would know the complexity of gender.