Should I Tell My Husband I Cheated?

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[EvilPaola]

I agree with what Matt said. Although it's not right to lie it would most likely only hurt the relationship to tell the truth. If the woman has learned a lesson and agreed with herself to remain faithful to her husband, then now she can concentrate on fixing her current relationship with him than going over with him how sorry she is. Because she knows she's sorry, and why subject your husband to hurt feelings and then try and make him get over it?

[yourtango]

this is a fascinating debate and I understand both sides. Don't subject your husband to more hurt and just move on from here OR tell him the truth and try to rebuild.

[likethelinen]

What the fuck? This and the "should girls propose" advice suck. Lying is such a dick move, especially with cheating... just because it'll spare the relationship, doesn't mean it's a good idea to LIE. That relationship is based on a lie for about a year... I'm close to unsubscribing.

[bellaswan2010]

Wow, you guys are 0 for 2 with your last 2 videos. All's well and good until the truth (inevitably) comes out later, right? Then what kind of relationship do you have? This is just awful advice...

[gaia1love]

she should leave her husband, she obviously doesn't love him...duh!

[MrTNAfan2010]

Here is the problem. IF it comes out (and big lies tend to come out eventually) it is going to be WORSE. Yes telling sucks in EVERY possible situation, but hearing it from her mouth won't be as embarrasing as hearing it from someone elses. Imagine how embarrassing it would be to hear it from someone else? Shit OTHER people possible know but HE doesn't. He'll feel like the biggest jackass ever.

[324582782]

@EvilPaola bullshit

[324582782]

@yourtango I hate those people who have all the fun, Drag some one along and then just change there mind, Why? cuz they suddenly start feeling

Most likely they wont tell there husband, Not that they care about him but they are selfish.

An it was the selfishness that made them cheat in the first place.

[eatingperson]

You should tell him you cheated and to say you're sorry, let him watch you get gangbanged.

[Anakin054]

This is horrible advice, not knowing the truth is like living a lie. I don't know about anyone else but I'd rather be hurt and know the truth than be happy and be living a lie. I mean if someone tells me they don't like my cooking I'm a little upset sometimes but better that than being lied to. Everyone deserves a chance to know the truth. If you cheat on someone, they have every right to know and they should be told. To not tell them is keeping the truth for them for selfish reasons

[OdinHyrule]

WHORE!!!

[twobeavers]

I think everyone is missing the point that she was with the other man for a year, not one or two flings. She has established a relationship with this guy. It is very difficult to go back after you have given your heart to someone else .

[SuperMsYaya]

Men can keep things to the self and us women with drive ourself crazy trying not to hurt him! So although it sounds like the best and easiest thing to to, the secret would put your relationship where it needs to be, not in fake!!!! Strong people deserve each other!

[FindTheBody]

I personally feel as though, if you handled your affair properly (aka - it's not someone your husband knows, you didn't blab the details of it to everyone you know), then it's the right thing to do to not say all the dirty details. After all, all it's doing is making you feel better about what you did. However, if there are ways where this will resurface and ruin everything you've been building, you have to come clean completely. That's just me though.