When she is not interested ...

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What you should and should not do when you realize that the girl you are interested in is not interested in you.

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[hialeahkid]

Never become friends with a woman that you are pining for. You will just be anointed in the role of her servant!

[mrsolofeo]

What pisses me off is that it's always the guy who puts his self worth on the line when initiating a relationship. When a woman rejects you, she is rejecting you as a person.

It is the guy who must rebuild his self esteem. The woman is more concerned with saving face to herself and her friends. She will never put her emotional integrity on the line unless the guy first commits his intent. It's act coy, and let the guy take the risk. Then, like in gladiator days, it's thumbs up or thumbs down.

[LexFeather]

@mrsolofeo Not being attracted to the person is the biggest dealbreaker. Sad that they would go out with abusers but true that attraction is everything and if not learn the hard way...if not attracted to someone everything with them even putting your arm around the person becomes non-consensual. You become practically repulsed by the wrong person. Don't know if it's the same with guys really or all women but I think something that a lot of women feel is that a connection is important.

[devinx10]

i had this thing with this girl when she really liked me but then it ended and over the past coupel weeks we were just friends and my friend kinda did the forceing her to go like me again and it worked for a week then it all fell apart and she hated me for the past coupel days when i basically gave her everything. we are still friend but it will never be the same the way we talk in school is good but out of school we dont talk anymore like we used to...

[Christian7thSF]

Goddam watched this video to late now she is gone..

[Dominos5000]

Nice Kitchen :D

[bukowskichuck]

I agree it is great advice and I've been a total fool; but often the case is a woman will lead a guy on with mixed messages..."I love you " but then act the opposite...and not explain it. Then it is even more confusing whether to give up or not.

[Superluhis]

I couldn´ t agree more. It seems so unfair

[mrsolofeo]

@lecifbaby A whole lot of guys see themselves as failures when they get rejected--not good looking enough, not personable enough. You say rejection is specific--right, the woman is rejecting a specific aspect about the guy. You call these deal breakers. But what are they? Being too short? Too shy? A lot of women go out with drunks, drug users and just plain abusers--those faults should be deal breakers. So there is more going on here under the surface than what most women will admit to.

[lecifbaby]

@mrsolofeo As a woman I can tell you that's not true 99% of the time. First, she probably doesn't even know all of you to discard it. Rejection is specific. She's either saying no the dynamic (ex: she wants fuckmate/you want girlfriend) and/or you've ticked some things or even one thing on her deal breaker list. Granted rejection still sucks, but how you look at it would probably help you cope better :)