Center Families - gay parenting through surrogacy

Ron Poole-Dayan, facilitator of the Men Having Babies workshop at Center Families speaks about being a gay surrogacy dad. Terry Boggis, director of Center Families also commented about the workshops. This is a segment from Out at the Center, December 2006.

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News & Politics

Tags:

• gay
• parenting
• surrogate
• mother
• relationship
• gestational
• surrogacy

[logos6F1H9L]

How is this "Great" and "Good" for the children when they will NEVER know the unimaginable joy and beauty of maternal motherhood? Is there ANY force greater in the universe than the love of a MOTHER for her child???? 2 surrogate fathers DO NOT equal 1 Maternal mother...never will. These two men are good people, but NOT what's best for these children...don't our children deserve the best??

[rondayan]

Why don't you reserve judgement until you know at least one family like ours? What you describe as "maternal" is not gender-specific. We provide our kids with much of this warm unconditional love, and we do not need your approval. However, it will be nice if you opened your mind. Have you never seen a cold neglectful mother? Can't you imagine a male as a primary care giver who goes on school trips, sooths a wound, hugs, kisses, saws torn stuffed animals, sings lullabies, etc.? That's sad.

[TheSteelGeneral]

One can make a good argument that gays are better parents than straights. Often gays are kinder and more caring, they are less violent than the average straight family. They are more nurturing.

So, I don't get all this whining about missing mothers. Aren't you people the same who think that gays are girlie-men? Then what is your major malfunction???

[ofelixdacat]

@TheSteelGeneral Another point, when gays have a child, it's because they wanted one, no because it was an accident due to irresponsibility or lack of contraceptive use. It difficult for gay couples to have children, yet is very easy for heterosexuals to pop out children, then throw them away like trash, or mistreat and neglect them, and that is very sad.

[my1bighappyfamily]

I am a lesbian gestational surrogate hopefully pregnant with a baby for two men in Spain. There was never a question in my mind that I would help another gay couple one day conceive. My partner and I used a sperm donor to have a child and having our son has been the greatest adventure. Two loving parents make childrens live perfect, NOT only two straight parents. Families come in all shapes and sizes. Us gays just have to have more babies to submerge all the ignorance out there.

[EuropeanGuy87]

I think gay parents make better parents..because they are working so hard toward that specific goal..the legal attorney and all the journey only makes them cherish the gift of having a children even more. I mean all kids need a "mother/female figure" in their life.. and the grandmothers could easily fulfill that need...

[ziki1]

They have two loving parents, unlike other kids that have two absented parents that never knew them because they don't love them.

[menukjau]

End of the day kids do not care if their parents are man-woman, man-man or woman-woman, as long as they have a happy childhood with parents who love and care for them.

[sareenagreen2010]

@Sunray2live The kids themselves are more accepting of gay relationships but no, being raised by gay parents doesn't increase the chance of them being gay.Remember, the majority of gay people come from straight parents.

[sareenagreen2010]

@logos6F1H9L How do you know what's best for THEIR children? you don't.Life with a mom and a dad is NOT all what it's cracked up to be.You also over glorify motherhood almost to the point in which you admit mothers are the most important person in someones life.Once you learn a thing or two about life and not dwelling on situations that are not present, your mind will expand.I know many people from all family units.There is no one size fits all family.

[lemonwasher]

@logos6F1H9L like those mothers who don't want their children/have unplanned sex and dump the babies? and you prefer those to these 2 men who took the time to decide and have these two children and love them and bring them up?

[SuperSoapopera]

Good Luck Guys...you doing an amazing Job!

[Max10192]

@rondayan i see a huge smile on those kids faces, so im guessing the love u give to those kids is more than enough