"Me and Mr. Jones!"

Shanda discusses the topic of what kind of woman becomes a mistress!!

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• MARRIAGE
• MISTRESS
• LOVE
• SEX
• RELATIONSHIPS
• WOMAN
• MAN
• INFIDELITY
• CHEATING.SNEAKING
• LYING
• CHILDREN
• FAMILY
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[ambroset1990]

Shanda is there any way you can talk about couples who break up and is there a chance of them getting back together? There are couples who are off and on and others break up and one of the people in the couple is still in love.

[ShandaSays]

@ambroset1990 I think this is a great topic to speak about! Definitely!

[j81jevon]

Yes, you can control who you fall in love with. I will not fall in love with a married man, a man with a bunch kids, ect.... you can control it. Initially you didn't know, but once you found out and CONTINUED...that's when you were to blame....and that's why you're not proud of it.

[ShandaSays]

@j81jevon You are entitled to your opinion which is why I love what I do. Not everyone may agree with how we live our lives, but we learn from our pasts to direct our futures. I didn't expect everyone to understand but what I will say is I'm NEVER ashamed of my past. It's why I am the woman I am today!! Life is filled with lessons,choices and opportunities. I have had the blessing of learning from all 3!!! I move forward as a proud,esteemed and accomplished woman!!!

[deeplynluv]

I respect your candidness. Do you ever wonder if karma will catch up to you and you will be on the receiving end?

[ShandaSays]

@deeplynluv This happened over 12 years ago. I definitely paid in ways that I know that I had to. But in sharing my life,even the negative, I hope for people to learn from it and consider making better choices in their own lives.

[ShandaSays]

@MrBiggSmoove I don't expect that you or anyone else would co-sign this! It's a part of my past that I'm not afraid to share. We all have done things we're not proud of. I am a woman who accepts her mistakes, learns from them and moves forward wiser and more informed!!

[janeice0906]

we are still married (2012) and though out the years of our marriage I caught him once in person and 10 times on line and like 3 V-messages …… and his own cousin told me he’s up to no Good smh I don’t know how to let go….. Because I came from a broken home I don’t know how to let go…… or is it just comma……. Oh what a web I weaved….. Another thing I wonder if my husband is a huge lesson I need to learn from and move on idk

[janeice0906]

Now that I’m married I defiantly regret all of it this is why. When I was 5 months pregnant in 2008 I caught my husband with our co-worker in my home the music was playing some soft tunes and my bed was messed up…. I walked in the room and looked @ them and said comma is a strong B-Word….. oh and Shanda my baby girl is fine and healthy .. thank God……

[janeice0906]

Hey Shanda I myself was in a relationship with a married man for 3 yrs like in 04-06 and I feel so bad. I mean I will stay quit while his wife would be on the phone and everything smh I was so messy with it.

[jmayerlicious]

i have been there too. probably more than i actually knew about. but the man at them time told me he was separated. i don't know if it were true or not, but i just didn't care at the time. and i did it for some of the same reasons you did...it happens.

[THiCkUMSz7]

somehow i still can find myself having respect for you and understanding why you did it, not condoning or agreeing with the actions. but at least you learned and were honest and shared! btw where did you get your earrings and ring from? LOVE IT! must have lol

[sansvirgin]

I made that mistake and I don't think everyone can control who they fall in love with. Some people are better at it than others. I did know and he told me he was leaving her and all the usual nonsense and I believed it. I think at the time I was lonely, but I also had low self-esteem and was accepting less than I deserved. The part that was more confusing for me was that our relationship wasn't so sexual as it was friendship. I think that was what was missing in his relationship.

[ur1luv802]

I'm so thankful for you sharing it. I can relate and I'm ashamed of it but it was definitely a learning experience

[HonestApril]

@ShandaSays My question to you is should I trust her?

[HonestApril]

@ShandaSays I love you for this. I was having a fun and just fooling around with a man who did not tell me he was married. I ended up pregnant by him and kept my baby. While I was four months pregnant, I found out but not by him. His friend told me & a girlfriend of mine finally decided to tell me after I was pregnant. She know his wife and her family personally and is my co worker. When I asked her why didn't she tell me before I conceived her response was it wasn't her place He still denies it