Narcissist's Victims' Many Faces

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The narcissist's false emanations are not restricted to messages with emotional content. They may contain wrong or false or partial information. The narcissist does not hesitate to lie, deceive, or "reveal" (misleading) half-truths. He appears to be intelligent, charming and, therefore, reliable. He is a convincing conjurer of words, signs, behaviours, and body language.

The above two classes of victims are casually exploited and then discarded by the narcissist. No more malice is involved in this than in any other interaction with an instrument. No more premeditation and contemplation than in breathing. These are victims of narcissistic reflexes. Perhaps this is what makes it all so repulsively horrific: the offhanded nature of the damage inflicted.

(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[Dassy0607]

I really look forward to your videos cause they come right at the time i need them as a reminder of the truth that is happening in my world. Helps me to stand strong in moving away from him. Thank you.

[puluc8]

@LegalEagle000 I'm pretty sure a narcissist would rather die, than do that.

[SovereignBeing]

i find they dont do it to other narcissists, because that soon blows up into a total nightmare for them, fighting themselves... they are very dangerous and will stop at nothing to finish you off, and that even results in death. also expensive as the years of therapy required after being controlled and suppressed in such a relationship will often leave you will long term psychological issues, esp with a parent..get out now while you still can.

[susiehelme]

Pls communicate with me, Sam. My sister is such an accute example of NPD. You even used the exact same phrase I did, that "everyone in her life is sucked in to the black hole of her narcisssism". I feel certain that one day one of her children will murder her. What can I do? Yours, Susie

[heygeno1951]

contd.......( from there on WE CHOOSE to be abused if we stay in the relationship )

[heygeno1951]

contd.......A narc ( like a wandering dog ) leaves you for the moment to be loved ,petted, fed, by even strangers . Not because he/she loves the stranger-- but because they are seeking SUPPLY. They LOVE their SUPPLY .They tolerate "relationships"--- because they NEED their SUPPLY.

WE are victims as long as we dont understand why the relationship IS SO MESSED UP. When we learn that the abuser is a NARC , THEN we have to let go of the responsibility of the situation.

[heygeno1951]

It is hard to imagine that (we) as victims of Narcs -- could be brushed aside with such ease.

I think of them as wandering dogs who "love you"( not real love ) when they are with you because you SUPPLY them with something they want.

[laurieAable]

My Narcissist coworker is at it again......after a week of not speaking- which was a peaceful experience! She comes at my with psychobabble, telling me that everyone says I am dressing like her???? Now mind you I have recenty lost 30 pounds and can finally fit into my thin clothes from a few years ago which were my clothes before I ever knew her, How do I make this stop??? Another coworker tried to punch her today and they went to the office WTH?????????

[klewinhicks]

If I never met and dealt with one personally, this might appear make-believe.

[barbarabell2011]

This perfectly describes my former roommate, a very deceitful and manipulate woman. She has nothing to show for all of this but still manages to cause distress to whomever she has contact with. I am non-violent and when I began to really see her, I really wanted to do her harm, but, chose to get away from her. People like this lady always will "reap" what they have "sowed" into the lives of others. Her actions will be her demise. Thanks for these videos, they are very informative.

[IJUSTSUBSCRIBENOW]

@puluc8 What about Jeremy Kyle? After looking at the criteria for NPD I would expect him to have it and to be psychopathic. But I would never have called him a psychopath using the checklist by Hare?! His body language and posture feels arrogant but like he's trying to hide it. He's also, seemingly charming one minute, then he switches to an extremely argumentative, screeching at guest, pointing out faults...not to mention he doesn't seem to get emotionally moved, just raged,,,alarm bells!

[Tweek12345]

I love reading and learning about psychology. Some of this is just pure genius. You're videos are awesome, always like watching them. Also this one in particular explains a lot of behavior I've played out myself, and also observed from other people.