Men Without Fathers: A LOST CAUSE?

Is there any hope?
Is there any difference?

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[TheAdamBBB]

I grew up without my father too. I lived with him in the same house in the first 13 years of my life and i still don't have a father. As far as I know he hated me because took my mom's attention from him. You said that men who grew up like me are cold and thing like that. Well since no one taught us how to be manly no wonder we have problems when we get older. I'm 21 now and I have trouble keeping myself from falling into depression. I'll be meeting a psychologist a few days from now.

[TonyaTko]

@TheAdamBBB Aweee hunny! I'm so sorry. I wish I could just (((HUGGGG))) you! But don't you worry; Admitting there is a problem is the FIRST step to healing and visiting a psychologist is one of the most pro-active things you can do. Please write me back in 90 days to let me know what change the therapist has inspired in you.

Also, keep in mind every therapist is different and dont b afraid to find one who works for You :)

-Tko

[VonAwesome]

I was raised by my Mom...no Dad...met my lady and she had 2 kids from a previous marriage, the BIO dad signed off on his own kids...so I adopted them. They're legally mine now.

[TonyaTko]

And thats why youre so Awesome Von! :-P

-Tko

[filiusfob]

As a man who grew up fatherless, it's hurtful to see you questioning whether I'm a "Lost Cause".

Is it reasonable for *you* to even define "masculinity"? After all, I reckon you'd be upset if I asserted criteria for "A Real Woman", if they excluded you, and you we hadn't even met.

You'd be doubly upset if you felt you were a good, ethical person, having done quite well despite a rough start in life.

Triply so if I did this and presented it as intellectual discourse.

[TonyaTko]

Hey, I'm only asking the question. I'm sorry if it hurt you. All you have to do is attest for the ability to be prosperous, happy, healthy etc witohut one. I am asking ppl to give their opinions. I hope you all are not a lost cause, but more and more I see the detriment left behind when mothers and/or fathers abandon their kids. In this vid Im talking about fathers but I talk about moms 2. I've seen men raised w/o the softness of a mother & its WORSE. We NEED both, I'm sorry.

jmho

-TKO

[GonzofreashBeatz]

oh my teachers and parents just gave up on me ever sence i was 12

[Victorian9322]

Well, my dad wasn't there that much for my brother and I. Emotionally, I mean. My brother is almost 20 and acts like a 17 year old. Bad temper!! With me, I've had trouble trusting men.

[lolikatu]

we should get married. ;D I love you!

[DogLover1507]

me and my brother grew up without a dad since 10 years.. we have a step dad now and me and my brother are really close to him and my brother is a really sweet 20 year old.. he loves his girlfriend and brings her flowers every week :D im really proud with my brother i kinda want a boyfriend like that when i grow up

[Ipanima88]

you are desgosting your totsy wutsy is showing you are discraisssing

[andreo]

I was raised by my aunt and uncle. I only saw my father twice (sometime around age 15). I didn't start living with my mother until age 11 (after my aunt died of cancer). I can sum it up in one line: life was very hard.

Prospective parents NEED to understand that they are not going to be raising a pet. There's lots of commitment that goes into raising a child and they cannot "half-ass" it because scares will be left that can never be removed.

[lopew1]

You are right.. We have trouble trusting and it happens naturally. We trust almost no1.. Its some psychological effect.. I'm very rough and I don't really show my emotions even though i do have a huge heart that I believe I got from my mother. Nice video! It is very very very important for kids to grow up with fatherly and motherly love becaus one day they will be adults like myself. Very important!

[LinuxBOX007]

@LinuxBOX007 I actually looked it up myself, and you are using it correctly although it is in reference to roman catholic government to speak or exchage thoughts as a Hypernym. So I take it back, not only was it sense but was also well used.