Adoption - Loss of Birth Culture

Dr. Richard Lee discusses the loss of birth culture in internationally adopted children.

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• adoption
• documentary
• movie
• china
• korea
• racism
• culture

[batmanzena]

yes, there are many "well-adjusted adoptees", and have open dialog with their parents, but not every adult adopted woman will share their inner deepest thoughts about being adopted! In our society, it is accepting to hear adoptees say happy things and appear content about being adopted, but not accepting to hear negative stuff-and adoptees know that from a young age. Adoptees are conditioned by society to say nothing bad about adoption.

[ambersinuyasharoom]

i know im korean and im adopted i want to know what being korean would be like how my life could be if i was still in korea though i love my family her i n the states but i want to see who my birth mother and father is and looks like

[SuperScotty1966]

Hey if somebody can help me too find my real father or my real mother

I will give that person 1000 euro

My name is Song-Un Cha, born in 1966 @ Seoul

My father is a Afro American Soldier & my mother an South Korean

When my father left Seoul he olso left us behind,

so I get adopted by Dutch people

I only know my mothers name : Ok Ran Cha.

She must be 60-70 years?

This is all I know, Thank U for listening & bless Ya'll.

[vangroovyfun]

An excellent statement about the fact that adoptees have lost their cultural heritage, & is not limited to trans racial adoptions. Caucasian adoptees can feel a sense of loss of continuity even within a wonderful Caucasian family. The issue falls under the fact that their character traits and familial culture, such as being artistic or being independent or being athletic may not mesh or be represented within their adoptive family. This leads to magnifying the other differences.

[ThePurpleBunny123]

If someone says where I'm from I say, "China and Canada." I'm technically FROM China but raised and grew up in Canada.

[ladyEulaelie]

Reading the comments, I sense that many ppl who do adopt kids of different races kinda frown down any suggestion that the adopted kid's culture is being "taken away". I sense that their attitude is one that the adopted kid shouldn't complain of loss of identity, but should be grateful that they were "Americanized" in our society rather than stuck into another where they could become "sex slaves", even though there are sex slaves in America. I feel for those kids who have insensitive parents.

[nomorefunds]

@pbrez22 Many adoptees deny the fact that their birth parents abandoned them. But the fact is, some of them were abandoned by their birth mother or birth father (or both). Perhaps they simply do not wish to believe that. Its a sad form of denial.

[SoveitBrave]

This is so me!!!!

[AlovinofKeys]

most my korean friends, even the ones that are just 2nd generation, not adopted, wish they knew korean or knew korean culture. Another thing i think they hate to see is (not trying to brag) when i can speak korean with other kids, and im only half korean, and they cant. They feel left out

[nadeseh]

@batmanzena boy did you say that well! Why adoptive parents think they can just expect that this child isn't going to have their own likes and dislikes. They are expected to be grateful. Adoptee, first parents... are conditioned not to say anything bad about adoption. But go to facebook, there is a community of people who greatly suffered from adoption that do speak the truth.

[41moment]

He is not saying that caring for a child who comes from a different cultural back round is bad. But that it's only natural that an adopted child will feel that sense of loss (not fitting in) culturally or racially as they grow older!

It's sad that this fact is ignored.

But if a child from a different Culture is adopted, The child should be given the opportunity to learn about their origins and be around people of the same cultural back rounds to give them a true sense of themselves.

[tryanjohnson]

At least a child has a home and food. Better than being sold as a sex slave in home country eh Dr. Lee? Oh sorry, that doesn't happen.