How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner

Want communications in your relationship to be more effective? Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman explains the best (and worst) ways to talk to your mate about your wishes and needs.

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• relationships
• communication
• marriage
• divorce
• Gottman
• couples

[drellawicked]

I have a question though, what do you do when you've that and your feelings are just ignored and disregarded? I'm kind of stuck in some what of a relationship with this person so at the very least I'd like to co-operate with them.

[TheGottmanInstitute]

@drellawicked This is a complex issue which is difficult to answer in short, in a public forum. It would need exploration of the way the 2 of you think, feel, and your histories and emotional temperaments. There are specific tools to do this if you're not in couples therapy; you might start with the exercises in The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work. (Even if you are not married, the work is the same.) It's an ongoing process with no instant answers.

[sarahmujahid]

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