If you are able to avoid that kind of guilt then I am envious of you sir. Most envious indeed. I look forward to answering more of your questions, I think I'll try to answer all of them when I get the chance. I will probably just quick capture them all because I'm too much of a perfectionist if I actually try to edit them and it takes far too long lol. I look forward to more from 5MH.
(cont...) I'm not trying to win a debate, it's just related to something I've been studying and I think that when outside the situation it seems like a cold and rational decision. I probably couldn't make the decision myself. With that kind of pressure I'd mostly likely capitulate to doing what the doctor offered as the best chance. I know from personal experience similar to this that I am almost incapable of making these kinds of decisions for a loved one. My rationality goes out the window.
(cont...) In these cases the person in question, the survivor, often feels it is there fault when there is no quantifiable evidence to support this individual being at fault in any way. Now add on the layer of having to make a choice which WILL cause the death of one of their children and I expect that the complications of maintaining a relationship between two people in which blame may be inadvertently assigned by one party or the other is going to compound the base issue of irrational guilt.
I agree the tragedy of being in the position initially is bad but people feel irrational guilt about many things and something on this scale is similar to some of the case studies I've read about when a parent looses a child due to one child going to th store with their spouse while the other stays home with them and the child and spouse die in a car accident. I have studied 25 cases with a similar premise and the outcome is typically suicide or a completely derailed life. (to be continued...)
Both options give each child a 50/50 chance of survival, the only difference is whether the children will get the same outcome or different outcomes.
I don't think I'd find it hard to live with myself. The tragedy is really that you are put into the situation to begin with, making a decision relating to the outcome of the situation doesn't make you responsible for the tragedy. It would of course be terribly sad though.
If you are able to avoid that kind of guilt then I am envious of you sir. Most envious indeed. I look forward to answering more of your questions, I think I'll try to answer all of them when I get the chance. I will probably just quick capture them all because I'm too much of a perfectionist if I actually try to edit them and it takes far too long lol. I look forward to more from 5MH.
-Max
itsjustmax 2 years ago
I would expect that many others would feel irrational guilt. Whilst I may have my moments, I was just saying that I by and large would not.
It's good to have some discussion outside the channel, I look forward to the next response you referred to in your video :-D
Mozza314 2 years ago
(cont...) I'm not trying to win a debate, it's just related to something I've been studying and I think that when outside the situation it seems like a cold and rational decision. I probably couldn't make the decision myself. With that kind of pressure I'd mostly likely capitulate to doing what the doctor offered as the best chance. I know from personal experience similar to this that I am almost incapable of making these kinds of decisions for a loved one. My rationality goes out the window.
itsjustmax 2 years ago
(cont...) In these cases the person in question, the survivor, often feels it is there fault when there is no quantifiable evidence to support this individual being at fault in any way. Now add on the layer of having to make a choice which WILL cause the death of one of their children and I expect that the complications of maintaining a relationship between two people in which blame may be inadvertently assigned by one party or the other is going to compound the base issue of irrational guilt.
itsjustmax 2 years ago
I agree the tragedy of being in the position initially is bad but people feel irrational guilt about many things and something on this scale is similar to some of the case studies I've read about when a parent looses a child due to one child going to th store with their spouse while the other stays home with them and the child and spouse die in a car accident. I have studied 25 cases with a similar premise and the outcome is typically suicide or a completely derailed life. (to be continued...)
itsjustmax 2 years ago
Both options give each child a 50/50 chance of survival, the only difference is whether the children will get the same outcome or different outcomes.
I don't think I'd find it hard to live with myself. The tragedy is really that you are put into the situation to begin with, making a decision relating to the outcome of the situation doesn't make you responsible for the tragedy. It would of course be terribly sad though.
Mozza314 2 years ago