Uploaded on Apr 25, 2011
Edmund observes that love contradicts the First Law of Thermodynamics
What follows is not mine - it's a translation of Alfred Adler:
Love, with its fulfilment, marriage, is the most intimate to devotion toward a partner of the other sex, expressed in physical attraction, in comradeship, and in the decision to have children. It can easily be shown that love and marriage are one side of cooperation -- not a cooperation for the welfare of two persons only, but a corporation also for the welfare of humanity
The fundamental guarantee of marriage is the feeling that you are worthwhile, that you cannot be replaced, that your partner needs you, that you are acting well, you are a fellow human being and a true friend, but comrades must be equal, for when people are equal they will always find a way to settle their difficulties.
To be faithful and true and trustworthy, not to be reserved, not to be self-seeking. It is not even possible to carry through a true comradeship if both partners have agreed to pursue their freedom.
The right solution to the problem of love and marriage belongs to the highest fulfilment of the whole personality. There is no problem more closely involved with happiness and a true and useful expression of life.
Most marital problems occur when one person feels either "less than" or "greater than" their spouse. When one person acts as though they deserve to dominate, the person of lesser status inevitably resorts to either open rebellion or subtle sabotage.
We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. We cannot love and be limited.
Most lovers conduct themselves as if each were afraid that the other one could see them as the weaker.
The Persistent Suitor, by Andreotti Federico
Two Lovers, by Marcus Stone
Ask Me No More, by Sir Lawrence Alma-Tadema
My Love is like to ice, and I to fire:
How comes it then that this her cold so great
Is not dissolved through my so hot desire,
But harder grows the more I her entreat?
Or how comes it that my exceeding heat
Is not allayed by her heart-frozen cold,
But that I burn much more in boiling sweat,
And feel my flames augmented manifold?
What more miraculous thing may be told,
That fire, which all things melts, should harden ice,
And ice, which is congeal'd with senseless cold,
Should kindle fire by wonderful device?
Such is the power of love in gentle mind,
That it can alter all the course of kind.
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