Searching for my Birthmother

This is an adaptation of a real letter I'm writing to my birthmother. I was adopted from Korea at 3 months old, and I'm saving to cover the fees and potential travel expenses involved in conducting this search. It takes a bit of investment and the chances of failure are high, but I've finally decided that it's worth pursuing... if only to let her know I'm alright, and to say, "Thanks."

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[sethandalexa]

Thank you for sharing your story!!! That's really encouraging!

[susanitalugano]

i found my mother when i was 4 years old after a long search...but she never never opens the door

[TheTravelfool]

@starlight1946 why do you think she didn't love you?

[piperbob2]

Good luck, Alexa

[starlight1946]

Beautifully spoken. I too am an adoptee who never knew my birth mother and have always wondered does she ever think about the little girl she did not raise and love? Does she have my same traits always searching for answers?

[coochicrook]

@xThPxSpeczer

idiot

[TheTravelfool]

I made a video too. Good luck. 

[Hanauborn]

@MegaLacubana

On last thing. If you have the ability to, Keep any information you have of your childs biological mother (or father). They may or may not want to reach out to them one day to find out why. I know this is not always possible. My adoptive mother recently adopted more children and I have encouraged her to try to keep what records she hasin case my little siblings want to "Find out" some day. Remember, your childs love of you WILL NOT be diminished for doing this. :-)

[Hanauborn]

@MegaLacubana

The other "challenging" times were when my adoptive family would comment on family traits. For example, " you have your father's nose or you have your mother's eyes". These were times I felt left out and "adopted". Now that I have found my biological family, I can now enjoy and be included in this type of a conversation. Please understand though, NOBODY will replace the mother who raised and took care of me groing up! I hope this helps! God bless!

[Hanauborn]

@MegaLacubana

Hi MegaLacubana, First of all, congratulations! I think it is a VERY loving thing you are doing by adopting a child! Having been adopted, my adoptive family always showed me unconditional love, but there was always that questions of who am I, where did I come from, why did my birthmother give me away? These are questions that your child will most likely have in the back of his/her mind when they are old enough to realize what adoption is.