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[sairaj1]

I think you are one of the luckiest people to have your husband change. The guy that I hve loved is indeed veryy arrogant and disrespectful and has not changed. Honestly, I do not think he will and if he does it will take many years. You are indeed a lucky woman. People like that spend their lives playing mind games and playing with other people's emotions. I went through a lot and not even once got an apology from him. Sad and a shame.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@sairaj1 - I am sorry to hear what you have gone through but it certainly wasn't luck that changed things with Steve. If you read our story you might understand that. I really do know how hard it can be.

Kim

[sairaj1]

@kimandSteveCooper And you know what Kim? I cannot even tell my close friends everything. Even when I did, they did not understand.

I did talk lots of psychologists, but it did not help. You just have to learn to love yourself. It was so embarrasing telling people but I thought he would stop lying. He did not. :(

[kimandSteveCooper]

@sairaj1 - Yes loving yourself is everything - just be thankful he is not messing with you anymore and for how much you have learned and also make sure you are prepared for what to say if he lands back on your doorsteps when the honeymoon period in his new relationship is over!

[sairaj1]

@kimandSteveCooper Yeah, he is with another woman. They are commited to one another. I just never knew and it was harder even when he was single and it will always be hard. So I let him go but I tried everything Kim.Everything in the book. We should not give up and then just let go when we have tried our best. They are tough nut to crack because the lying NEVER stops. NEVER. And the disrespect and lack of proper communication makes it even harder.

[ChavonnNishino]

please turn up steve's mic!!!!! :) thx for the mayerial

[DropDeadCouture]

@katiegreenaway so may i ask you what he was hiding behind that facade?

[kimandSteveCooper]

Thanks! It certainly gives our life meaning (-:

[kimandSteveCooper]

Yes maybe but it is usually the other way around, they are a good guy to the whole world but at home it is different.

I guess that divide could happen in other ways however like how the KKK behave behind the scenes towards blacks while looking like upright citizens - perhaps even with thier family.

I am not one to judge what Obama does behind the scenes but it does seem that his election promises mean very little now.

[alltrouble2]

I was married to an abuser for 29 yrs. before I wised up & left, so I do know what you went through even if it was on a different level. And thank you for answering. You guy's might have done something here that no one else has ever achieved. You loved each other enough to want to save your marriage & did something about it. I think it's great! And kudo's to you both for also putting your knowledge out there to help others who are willing to work at it. Keep up the good work!