Borderline Personality Disorder and Rage

Borderline Personality Disorder has at its centre tremendous pain that is protected against through many defense mechanisms that manifest themselves through anger and rage. Author, speaker, and life coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the reason for the anger and rage in BPD. Mahari has an ebook available called "BPD and Rage" and an audio program called, "Rage Addiction in BPD" at phoenixrisingpublications.ca

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• bpd and rage
• aj mahari
• borderline personality

[2012GreenGhost420]

Finally someone who gets it! Just bought your e-book Borderline and Rage,, im on page 45 at the moment... wow amazing and very powerful Chapter 3 is just crazy.... exactly what is going through my brain at all times!

I was triggered at work today and I raged again. its so annoying and over the stupidest little thing ever! Got to finish your book.... And your right Anger is a POSTIVE thing... makes me STRONG! But the Rage is Negative make me weak...

Doesn't help that I work in CAMBRIDGE! ahh lol

[ajmahari]

@2012GreenGhost420 If you are in the Cambridge in southwestern Ontario, good news, I am setting up a BPD support group (your aren't far from where I am) if you want to know more go to ajmahari.ca and contact me via the form on that site. I'm glad that you are finding the Ebook helpful. Sorry to hear about the trigger. No matter where you work, you can learn to slow down reactions to those triggers.

[2012GreenGhost420]

@ajmahari

Cambridge?! ahhhhh no I'm from Kitchener :) I live 3km away from your phoenix risising publications! Small world! Go to swiss chalet much? and yes if VERY interested in a support group, I will contact you via e-mail, thank you very much :)

[ajmahari]

@2012GreenGhost420 I'll look forward to your email and yeah, sometimes it is a really small world. Nope, I don't go to Swiss Chalet much but love that bargain store in that area :)

[iamillful]

can i ask you, what do you feel now that your over bpd that you didnt feel when you had i mean like significant improvements, and also what do you still feel that you felt when you had bpd?

[ajmahari]

@iamillful To name a few things I have felt since I recovered from BPD - Alive, centered, I know who I am, secure, happy, competent, not afraid of abandonment, not afraid of my feelings, not angry, assertive with boundaries when necessary, get along well with others, non-judgmental, paradox - not black and white thinking, positive, calm, soooo many things I had no idea one could feel when I had BPD. I don't feel any BPD traits like when I had BPD. Life is so much different from the inside out.

[ajmahari]

@bpdmale Not all who are diagnosed with BPD were sexually abused. It can be argued that critical parenting is emotionally abusive. Children need nurture, support, and validation. Criticism, that isn't constructive and well-balanced with positive affirmation does not support a healthy sense of self. Sensitivity may play a role, however, be careful not to take responsibility for something "wrong" in you when you were you were the child and whatever lead to BPD for you, is not your fault.

[scotchvelo]

@ajmahari This is so true! You don't have to be horribly sexually abused to develop really awful symptoms later in life, whether you call it BPD seems beside the point.

Parents who are indifferent, dismissive, distant or who are passive can cause INCREDIBLE damage to the child because children can READ their parents.

Look up "Heinz Kohut - Reflections on Empathy" on YouTube and listen to what he says at 2:50.

[13abbitt]

I'm in NYC, and clinically demonstrate certain BPD traits, according to the physicians/psychologists who have seen me. I'm lucky to have a psychiatrist who uses "the least intrusive" therapy (BPDs do worse with CBT/structured therapies): but I am at the same time I'm lacking some specific knowledge, after 11 years. The point, feeling damaged beyond repair, is true with me. Considering the facts, that is not unreasonable. It is what I do with this information, being damaged that matters. peace

[2012GreenGhost420]

you know what sucks? Fucking Blackberry Tour Phone! that's why I threw it against my condo steel door about 5 times and smashed it to bits! at least I didn't throw it against the wall, that would leave a mark on the wall, so i guess I was somewhat in control of my rage? ps. Fuck my borderline step-mother you fucking raged on me EVERY FUCKING day and my stupid PUSSY father who just FUCKING let it happen! ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!

[smmeegal]

I'm so glad I've found you, you described this so well & what a relief 2 actually hear this said out loud & so articulately, am looking forward to reading your ebook, big thanks.

[ajmahari]

@russian1mafia The emotion of anger is positive, it is what some people do with it that is not at all positive. Interesting usage of language at the end there that would suggest that you might benefit from learning more about anger, its purpose and what it can teach you. Perhaps that way you may express yourself in a more open and less defensive way?