Bringing Rapport OUT of the Stone Age and REALLY getting someone to pay attention to you!

Yes we have all seen the idea that if you mirror someone, matching their physical movements that you can get that person to like you. Yeah and at one time rubbing 2 sticks together was the only way to make fire and everyone had fur underwear.

That was a good method of rapport when it was all there was. The problem is that it was just as likely to insult and irritate someone as it was to do anything else. One thing that happens 100% of the time is that when you are already in rapport, mirroring happens naturally. People tend to follow each other. That is the kind of thing you learn from actually getting rapport and using it instead of just observing it in others.

The big problem is a basic misunderstanding of what rapport is. Too many people think that the goal is to get people to like you. Who would want that? Rapport is not about getting someone to like you. It is about making a connection on the level that has the most influence.

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• Persuasion. Rapport
• tom vizzini
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[MrHcsl]

hello tom, i really like your videos.

in this video i didnt really get what was the "message" or the "point".

so it'll be great if u could explain it in few words.

thx and good day.

[TomVizzini]

@MrHcsl The point is that old methods of getting rapport are outdated and ineffective :) matching and mirroring does not work and never really did.

[mjou812utube]

ok ok will follow we'll see what you got for us. or If you can help us if you can...

[MaximumGKB8]

Umm This is Intersting Tom... I Guess My Mentality is Enjoy Life as Much as you Can

to the Fullest so Having Power Not that I Don't but I can Learn a thing or two from you and You I.. Very Interisting stuff I try not to Treat People like Puppets but I perfer the Term Influence them Much better.. But Yes I see what your saying...

[kathmandau]

Thank you for sharing, my friend.

Many blessings and peace,

CG

[richtawee2007]

you are great.

[recnamoruen8]

The change you seek is within.

[recnamoruen8]

Tom are you, or were you ever a car salesman? You were definitely a salesman, but you send the mixed signals characteristic of a car salesman.

[austin4435123]

You're the MAN!