The Silent Crusade

Originally, this is the name of the book I wrote for David but I decided to make this little film to show some little known facts about stillbirth.

The Silent crusade is supposed to signify the fight parents have to endure in their day to day life to get compassion from their doctors, respect out of a society that doesn't understand, politicians who look at what you did or had to do as an "abortion" and speak negatively (indirectly) about you, and love in a marriage where grief takes on a shape so different for each person that from one statistic I heard something like 60% of parents get divorced after the death of an infant.

It is not a choice to have a stillbirth. These children are wanted by their parents. They are loved dearly and sometimes I think that we forget that love comes in all forms. A picture of your child is priceless but some only have one photo of a child they had to bury and they are all beautiful.

I couldn't pick and choose what information for friends and family of a grieving parent to read because there is so much that is so vital to understand so I reprinted a booklet I made up for friends and posted it to a webpage. Please take a look:

http://misscookbook.tripod.com/griefinformation/

Love Ya'll,

VeraWang

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[brandy28655]

oh god thank you, there is no pain in this world like loosing your child. my baby was born asleep on the 6th of feb. 2007 and there are days that i just want to crawl into the ground with him.

oh god i want to hold my baby in my arms and to hear him cry just once.. the silence when he was born will haunt me for the rest of my life.

[veranichole1981]

Sweetie, I'm crying with you! I miss my little boy so much on so many days. Yesterday I went to the cemetary on his due date and just laid there next to his easter decorations and balled because I wanted to hold him. Love ~ Rae

[veranichole1981]

Sweetie, I'm crying with you! I miss my little boy so much on so many days. Yesterday I went to the cemetary on his due date and just laid there next to his easter decorations and balled because I wanted to hold him. Love ~ Rae

[veranichole1981]

The overwhelming majority of women NEED that validation but for various reasons put on by grief, society and what they think is "right" don't know that it is okay to acknowledge your child. While everyone else is tucking their kids into bed at night all these parents have are the memories and they never forget... That is just what I have seen and heard from women I've met or talked with. They WANT and NEED to talk about ALL their children.

[aztecadreamerz]

Your video touched my soul, Everyone asks why I'm so different and I always say because my son took a piece of me when he was born still. Thank you for posting this.

[jamalije]

Thanks for this great video. It is truly touching. My sister's baby girl, Lauren Rose was born still on Nov. 30/07 at 38.5 weeks. She had a great pregnancy & found no heartbeat at her regular prenatal visit. The last 2 months have been very difficult for our whole family. I have posted this video on my Facebook page so friends can hopefully try to understand what my sister is going through & maybe by watching your video they can help ease some of her pain & understand stillbirth & the pain

[devilpo123]

Everyone has to go.

I can see that you have a demure heart.

Love~ Kaylen

[dmm1415]

You are a wonderful human being and have helped me to understand the pain that I am experiencing through your videos. My story is unique and I could not begin to tell you what has happened and what I am going through right now. God Bless You.

David

[missysspot]

I love this, its so well done, I would like to add it to my myspace, so I can share it w/ more people anyone know how ??????

[1butterflykiss]

Thank you so much for making this video. I do not know where you are from but in Illinois they do not even give a death certificate...as though they don't count. Its sad that so many people really do not know how hard it really is.

*kisses*

Therese

[cakesNM]

Your video is so touching. I too lost a son, Mateo in July 2005. I think about him everyday, miss and love him. To all the angels....we love you always. I will never forget him. love mama.....ELG

[twish1999]

I am truly honoured that you have attached this video here

It is a wonderful video, with a message for the world.

No wonder you are so proud of it because i am proud of you for making it :-)

xxx hugs xxx

[emhsmommy]

My son was born still on September 1, 2005. I miss him so much. I think about him everyday. It DOES hurt so much to have him forgotten by everyone around us. I know exactly what it feels like to want to crawl in that hole with your baby just to hold him. It seems crazy until you actually bury your own baby - leave them in the ground & walk away - that was the worst. Thanks for the video.

P.S.You may want to fix the spelling mistakes...the errors are distracting.

[lizaye]

Payton Ryan was born on August 21, 2007. I miss him so much everyday. I never realized how many people have experienced this horrible thing called stillbirth. I agree with clzachman1, our babies need to be remembered, talked about, and recognized as the beautiful babies that we all wanted so much.