Narcissism: Blessing or Dysfunction?

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Paradoxically, his dysfunction allows the narcissist to function. It compensates for lacks and deficiencies by exaggerating tendencies and traits. It is like the tactile sense of a blind person. In short: pathological narcissism is a result of over-sensitivity, the repression of overwhelming memories and experiences, and the suppression of inordinately strong negative feelings (e.g., hurt, envy, anger, or humiliation).

That the narcissist functions at all - is because of his pathology and thanks to it. The alternative is complete decompensation and integration.

In time, the narcissist learns how to leverage his pathology, how to use it to his advantage, how to deploy it in order to maximize benefits and utilities - in other words, how to transform his curse into a blessing.

Narcissists are obsessed by delusions of fantastic grandeur and superiority. As a result they are very competitive. They are strongly compelled - where others are merely motivated. They are driven, relentless, tireless, and ruthless. They often make it to the top. But even when they do not - they strive and fight and learn and climb and create and think and devise and design and conspire. Faced with a challenge - they are likely to do better than non-narcissists.

Yet, we often find that narcissists abandon their efforts in mid-stream, give up, vanish, lose interest, devalue former pursuits, fail, or slump. Why is that?

(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[SovereignBeing]

some people who have their sun in their first house are very similar to the reptilian/narcissist, they are very self interested, high energy, critical, devoid of empathy and very hard work. meet one who has both and you are in for a bumpy ride.

[TheUnChainedOne1]

"Healthy Narcissism" as you have described it, is just a healthily developed ego and self confidence. Narcissism is when somebody has TOO LARGE of an ego and thus it becomes a negative thing.

[Kathydrel]

When I told my husband he is too sensitive ,he replied " I thought it was good to be sensitive ?" I told him " towards others , not yourself ! How many narcissists make that mistake I wonder?

[dutytocareforothers]

Narcissists can function very well and even better than before in society because the corporate culture caters to them and their hypocritical and sadistic needs. The corporate culture blacklists empaths and reasonable people. This is like Communist China.

[dutytocareforothers]

@Kathydrel Exactly, almost every single person I've met is a full fledged sadistic narcissist. The exploitation, the manipulation, the lack of empathy, the arrogance, the incompetence, the cover ups, passive-hostility, gaslighting, doublespeak, interrogations, etc. It's truly awful. I expose people like that if they are in the professional world. I'm sick of it.

[depress0r]

I absolutely admire the philosophical writings.

Especially the wording. It paints a picture really well.

[Slipthemic]

I agree totally. It is refreshing!

[IJUSTSUBSCRIBENOW]

@jayeenn I meant to write the opposite to a psychopath is an empath, as for narcissist it is difficult to define the opposite as everyone has narcissistic qualities within them to have a healthy ego. The only thing I've heard of is when Sam mentioned narcissistic death, which is severe to mental health, these people are at risk of harming themselves. Empaths believe they are great at reading people and know how to solve other peoples problems.

[IJUSTSUBSCRIBENOW]

@jayeenn The opposite to a narcissist is an Empath but despite it sounding all good and jolly, anything in the extremes is a bad thing. Empaths also, ironically, have narcissistic traits. They are also loosely called do-gooders.

[alton14344]

I found its a zombie like demeanour in my experiance.you cant help them or abide them unless you want to be used up.you Cnt reason,form boundaries,make resolutions or even expect them to keep to social norms or promises of any kind.The only way to help is to leave and dont ever go back,you would not have a zombie like creature in your home,would you?external zombification is easy to identify,as is internal zombification.if a prospective partner acts like an emotional zombie.kick them to the Kerb