My Gender Exploration - Q&A

I had a couple people asking me details of my gender exploration and I wanted to address those. Basically, why did you think you were FTM, who did you tell, how did you figure out you aren't, and how did it go when you told people that you aren't.

Also, yay editing! I managed to get this video from 23:39 to 10:00 exactly. Huzzah!

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[blownaFUSE]

Thank you for posting this! I've been calling myself genderqueer for a few months now without really considering butch. Originally, when I thought butch, I thought of those girls with baggy paint-stained clothes and backward ball caps (like in Team Gina's music vid Butch/Femme). You've helped open my mind a bit more. I'll definitely be checking out that book.

[JulzB525]

@blownaFUSE I'm glad to have helped! Let me know how you like it.

[JulzB525]

@blownaFUSE I'm glad to have helped! Let me know how you like it.

[JessoTorfer]

Well, what i wanted to say: I think it's so cool that you feel that way, because it helps me understand myself better too (knowing that there's people who didn't quite feet in "ftm standards", but still have this feminine/masculine dynamic). Thanks!

[JulzB525]

No problem, I'm glad you enjoyed my video. I think it's important to understand that people can embody gender any way they want. It's okay for there to be masculine women and feminine men, regardless of who was assigned what gender at birth. I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to drop me a line if you ever want to talk more. Take care.

[JessoTorfer]

Great vid! I talked to my Psychologist yesterday (about me being ftm) and he said: "well, it's a shame that women, who don't fit the woman's stereotype fell they have to become men. Why cannot there be masculine Women or femenine Men." I do want my body to be masculine (have beard, lower voice, etc), but i acknowledge, that i also have a feminine part, that i don't want to loose. Though in me, it's more like i feel right as a "feminine" man.

[JulzB525]

I think your psychologists response was a perfect example of cisgender privilege. Yes, there have been butch women who transitioned because they felt pressure to be men instead of women, but the overwhelming majority of people transition because it's just who they are. Thank you for commenting. Good luck and I hope your psychologists eventually learns to be a little more supportive.

[MrMerchiodos]

thanks this really helps. I really wanted to look like a woman, but still have a penis :| and I watched some videos and thought maybe getting testerone might help, but don't know and how would my family accept this... they accept me as being gay, but wanting to be a woman? I need help?

[TheSLOfox]

I'm so glad I found this video! It sounds like our experiences with gender have been kind of similar. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[jeremyethan17]

Thanks for this video! I'm kind of different too - I'm ftm, but I don't really have gender dysphoria (right now anyways)

[blownaFUSE]

@JulzB525 I'm buying it tomorrow. I'll let you know.