"why do women get back with abusive men?"

chances are you have either been affected by domestic violence directlt in some way in your life- if you havent you definitely have a friend or realtive who has

understanding this complex, emotionally charged issue is not easy- the women who have been abused often feel defensive and people outside the situation are quick to judge their seemingly irrational action of going back to the abusive partner

with a bit of understanding of some of the complex psychological functions that keep these dramas playing out, we can help ourselves and each other with these situations and maybe try to foster a bit of compassion for the women who are addicted to the men who abuse them

I was motivated to do this blog watching Larry King ask the question many have asked " but WHY do women go back to abusive men?" on his CNN show about Rihanna being assaulted by Chris Brown...

I shot this a week ago and was going to shelve it as not being combatively relevant enough until I remet with an old friend and found she had been going through the cycle of physically and psycholigical abuse too- she has had a nervous breakdown and is now on anti depressants (I hate those things) so I decided to upload it after all

hope it helps, its just an opinion

Richard Grannon

Chief Instructor http://www.streetfightsecrets.com

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[karrac2011]

I was in a 2 year relationship with an abusive man..i agree with someone below me that said the man makes u feel like no one loves you as much as him. And they make u feel more comfortable around them too. And my ex acted like the sweetest guy when he WASN'T hitting me. But after 2 years i finally got smart and left. Now I have only been with sweet guys and i treat them like crap unfortunately

[streetfightsecrets]

@karrac2011 thats good that you're out of it... ..

"Now I have only been with sweet guys and i treat them like crap unfortunately" - why do you think that is happening?

[devereaux999]

Hey question, why are their so many comments removed from your video. I see lots of positive comments but not any negative comments. It appears to me you are removing the ones that dont support you. Whats up with that. You have someting to hide. I can see through your bullshit. What are your credentials to teach this subject and manipulate your comments posted.

[streetfightsecrets]

@devereaux999 if the OP removes a comment you see nothing, the comment just dissapears. Apart from your comment and some men coming on here and whinging that "women are mean too" (as though I ever implied they were not) the comments have been all positive. Let me repeat that : the comments coming from the people for whom this video was intented, women experiencing abusive relationships (ie not you) have all been positive. So what "bullshit" do you think you are "seeing through"?

[AssociateAdvocate79]

Women aren't known for their logical prowess.

[SuperScreamingEagle]

@ember1k there are many factors that come into play. Women are emotionally bonded to those they are close to...fear: your abuser promotes fear into you... finances, what if your abuser is your means of financial support? isolation: all your friends and family have been removed...who do you turn to? very complex.

[davidhdaisley1]

Wish I went to your classes mate. You talk a lot of sense.

[ember1k]

I think it's because they secretly enjoy the abuse...I mean if they didn't, why would they choose to get back together with the man that hurts them? Yeah, i know you may love him, but which do you love more, the abusive man or yourself? And if they have children, that's even worse. To force a innocent child to live with an abusive ass all because the woman can't let go.

[Pownkracks]

I agree completely. I just got out of a 7 year abusive relationship and always wondered why did I always go back. I always told people that it felt like I was addicted to my partner.... Thank you for this video, it helps me to be more informed why I did what I did and how to prevent it in the future

[Felates]

Why do women get back with abusive men? Ever heard of something call survival of the fittest it's how the dodo died out. These women must like it they say businesses work on repeat business. Before all u abused women get out ur pitchforks I am a wome so u can't use that excuse. Ta!