TEDxKC - Brené Brown - The Price of Invulnerability

TEDxKC talk synopsis: In our anxious world, we often protect ourselves by closing off parts of our lives that leave us feeling most vulnerable. Yet invulnerability has a price. When we knowingly or unknowingly numb ourselves to what we sense threatens us, we sacrifice an essential tool for navigating uncertain times -- joy. This talk will explore how and why fear and collective scarcity has profoundly dangerous consequences on how we live, love, parent, work and engage in relationships -- and how simple acts can restore our sense of purpose and meaning.

Speaker: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work where she has spent the past 10 years studying courage, shame and authenticity. She is the Behavioral Health Scholar-in-Residence at the Council on Alcohol and Drugs and has written several books on her research.
www.brenebrown.com/welcome

http://www.TEDxKC.org/

About TEDx, x = independently organized event

In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized. (Subject to certain rules and regulations.)

Category:

Nonprofits & Activism

Tags:

• TED
• TEDxKC
• Brené Brown
• Brene
• Shame
• vulnerability
• invulnerability
• fear
• joy
• relationships
• purpose
• meaning
• Nelson Atkins Museum of Art
• University of Houston
• Talk
• Speech

[myposchange]

"We want more guarantees. We we want to believe that we we're not going to get hurt and that bad things aren't going to happen and they are, and there is a guarantee that nobody talks about and that is that if we don't allow ourselves to experience joy and love we will definitely miss out on filling our reservoir with what we need when those hard things happen."

Well said.

[tdreamgmail]

Yet another aha moment yet what can you do to get away from the numbing? The practical exercises and actions that follow? Or is the ego satisfied we now know why we feel the way we feel but continue to live the same life and make the same mistakes regardless.

Sitting atop your great marble psychological pedestal? Reliving the story, but what advice can you give? You stew in your own situation yet offer no answer. The salesman first port of call is always pain and vulnerability.

[gkdrummerboy]

GSP should watch this.



[MsEat25]

Is there a transcript of this speech anywhere on the web?

[AuroraClaire94]

@ilovelux Thank you.

[cmccormick3193]

@ghostfaceki11ah: my interpretation of your transcription:

an individual has a certain amount of Faith (somewhere between a lot and very little) ... that individual can experience a particular amount of Vulnerability (somewhere between a lot and very little) ... the more Vulnerable that individual is, the less they will bounce around the roller-coaster of Extremism as they live their lives. aka: Life flows between Certainty and Uncertainty ... Faith, Vulnerability are vessels to best ride it.

[ilovelux]

@AuroraClaire94 well said.

[ghostfaceki11ah]

can someone better explain the faith - vulnerability= extremism equation. And " faith is the vulnerability that flows between the shores of certainty" quote!!!!!

[AuroraClaire94]

@tdreamgmail The purpose of this is not to provide all the answers. No one has all of the answers. The purpose is to provoke meaningful thought and change the way we view ourselves and everything around us. Brene's point is that we need vulnerability and therefore we should not try to numb it at all. We have to take the good feelings with the bad. Without suffering there would be no compassion. There's no set recipe to a perfect life without any bad feelings. That's not the way life was Created.

[happinesson]

i am totally affected by this..nice talk

[Boldstrummer]

@tdreamgmail

One has to take responsibility for our vulnerability or lack of .

You already projected a not good out come.

So it seem you already know the answer.

Seems there is anger by judging her as being on a pedestal.

She has DONE THE WORK. She confronted her conditioning.

It was a fight be she won in the end. YOU can do the same thing.

Nothing stopping you except you.

Practice gratitude. To honor what is ordinary in our lives.

The people we love our community. Be grateful.

[tdreamgmail]

@VikingaJM aww you sound like a sweetie pie, my sis linked me to her other video which was much better in explaining vulnerability to me. I am now a fan