How to dump a friend who is manipulative, cunning and narcissistic; Dealing with people who guilt

A viewer wants to know what she should do about a friend who constantly manipulates and guilts her. As Marie explains, those types of people don't normally change. And the best bet would be to get him/her out of your life!

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[mariedubuque]

Haosking1--I would try every once in a while to text this person, just even one line. In the mean time, try to be with other people if you can who are in a different group. That will help. And he/she could come around.

[mariedubuque]

Cmorfin--You need to stay away from her completely. She will not stop. If you have to, just say hi and bye. And keep the conversations superficial at most. She is bad news. People who turn people against other people are manipulators and I doubt she will change.

[mariedubuque]

mickster1965--I wouldn't stay friends with someone who makes you feel bad--ever. I have zero tolerance for those types of people. I believe they try to bring others down in order to elevate themselves. Try to surround yourself with positive people. I know that takes time. But consider being friends with people you may not have even thought about before. In other words, be open-minded. Sometimes people that you haven't even given a chance will surprise you.

[mariedubuque]

I would simply distance yourself. Be polite, but not overly friendly. Just keep the conversation to superficial stuff. Don't share anything personal, and don't get involved with her life. Basically, you have to put up a wall with these types of people.

[TenkenSmile]

@devilcool2: Manipulators aren't "friends" to begin with.

[Annafin62]

These people just go on playing, taking every hint how to hurt you. If you say what you don´t want to discuss about, they discuss exactly that. If they find out that you are distancing yourself because of that, they´ll try to get you back to the game by being nice couple of times.

So they know exactly what they are doing. They need you more than you need them.

[gummynumberone]

@FluteFairy1 i feel for you.send me any adivse you get.good luck :)

[SovereignBeing]

@ahamatmabrahman yeah ive had 40 long years of it.. with an over dominating parent. the best thing to do is ignore them, they hate that, their main aim is to get a reaction out of you so when you don't react to all their button pressing and control systems, they will look else where for their energy source, which is an emotional reaction

Dont let them keep hooking you back in with guilt though, its possible to zone out & be distant even when living together, married couples do it all the time. !

[ahamatmabrahman]

Its especially tough when when that person is a family member Some advice on coping when theres no escape from having to live with such a personality would be great

[danixo8]

ok so i am at a real cross-road with one of my friends. we have been friends for a really long time and used to be really close, but recently i have noticed she is doing all these things in the video and i am really not enjoying her friendship anymore. i would try to distance myself, but we have 3 classes together! and we are in the same friend group. so i feel that if i try to break of my relationship with her i will be losing many of my other friends too and creating a lot of drama.helpplease!

[piloooogen]

@FluteFairy1 Search for emotional vampires on youtube start with part 1 "the dance". As for me I haven´t made it either :C

[FluteFairy1]

PLEASE READ!!!!!!!!! i tried this and now she made friends with my friends as revenge and idk wat to donow shes making them all hate me i dont no wat to do anymore and i feel guilty plus she lives right across the street from me and now sits at our luch table!!!! pleas help just anybody send me advice

:((

[Nils0scar]

This is not a how to do, it's a what to do.

[acch20]

You need to be a bit assertive at first. If you flat out start ignoring them they could make your life hell. For a while just make up some excuse that you're doing other things, be evasive and a bit cold. Then stop answering their calls a bit more. Just keep refusing to do things with them as politely as possible and eventually they'll get bored and move on. That's a damage limitation method especially if you're likely to keep bumping into them.