Deborah Harry - "Downtown 81" (1981)
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Anyway....
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@xXPinkGoddessXx - I disagree. I have virtually no sex drive, and that is not typical of most men I know. And clearly I have no interest in a mate who could produce lots of children, because men don't have children. You're simply wrong where I'm concerned, but I'm sure you're right about many other people. And here we shall have to agree to disagree...
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@Timmybear Unconscious drives and conscious wants are entirely different, and are consequently often at odds with each other. We are programmed to be attracted to qualities in a mate that increase the likelihood of having a high number of offspring, regardless of how we feel about that. That's why homosexual men, men who don't want children, men who are infertile, and even men who suppress their sexual desire for whatever reason, have exactly the same sex drives as all other men do.
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@xXPinkGoddessXx - I appreciate that's how you think. I don't. We clearly have very different philosophies and experiences. I'm reminded of the person who once said that, by the hierarchy of human needs, EVERYONE wants to reproduce and, when I told her I didn't, she said I was deluding myself. I do know the contents of my own mind.
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@Timmybear A "strict individualist" would be truly sexless if he existed. Anyone with a sexual psyche is wired to be attracted to people who bear certain sexual characteristics. Who they actively seek of course is a different matter though.
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@xXPinkGoddessXx - I guess I'm an alien. I don't operate this way. I don't think of groups of people in terms of sexual attraction. I'm a strict individualist. It's true that I'm generally not attracted to skinny hairless guys, but it's not universal, and it's often because these are people who have bought into and incorporated the beauty myth and the mainstream gay culture, neither of which are things for which I have any time.
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@Timmybear Yes, but now you're talking about attraction in terms of personal compatibility. Some people do take character traits more into consideration than others of course, but it's impossible not to value generalised sexual attraction in the form of sexual orientation, sexual kinks, things like that. That's the reason someone could be put off by an entire category of people sexually, while having no problem with them as people.
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@xXPinkGoddessXx - again, your perspective. There are people who disagree on each point there - it's a diverse world. Personally, my attractions are more based on shared intellectual and aesthetic tastes - that's probably why I've only had two relationships, with physically fairly different people. It usually takes me six or seven months of knowing someone and/or dating them before a physical attrraction develops.
....Yet another thing Debbie Harry did before Madonna.
ihasch 1 year ago 10
the piano beggining at 1:46 sounds so similar to kid cudis beggining to his song "solo dolo" .....damn ...i wonder what coolness they would create if they knew each other !! brothas from different times and mothas LOL RIP
mello4eva 11 months ago 2