Response to criticism regarding my project and the attack on my sexuality

http://tinyurl.com/drea-glbt
I knew, going in to this project, that I would face criticism for it, I just never assumed the harshest criticism would come from within the GLBT community. I am being attacked by transguys who feel that I am perpetuating a stereotype that transmen are just really butch lesbians. Guess what? I never said that, nor did I imply that, nor do I think that.

I am being told that because I am not interrested in biological, or cisgendered men, that I am uncapable of trully accepting or respecting a trandgendered partner.

The question I am getting the most is why, if I am not interested in cis or bio men, am I attracted to transgendered men? In all honesty, it's mainly a matter of genitalia. I do not like natural penises, I don't know why I have no issue treating my partner's prosthetic cock as if it was theirs naturally, but am repulsed by a natural penis. I had a transguy I was dating who I was helping to shop for a pack n pee and we encountered one that I was completely repulsed by, it was TOO realistic I guess, I don't know, it just "grossed me out." I can't explain it, nor can I help it.

I am not attracted to all transgendered men either, just as I am not attracted to all butch lesbians. But, as any of my transgendered, or male identified, non transitioning partners will tell you, I treat them as they deserve, respecting their gender or gender identity and catering to them and they want to be treated.

So for a complete and total stranger to attack my project, mainly my "A Femme's Perspective" collection, which showcases the kinds of persons that I am attracted to, or attacking me for my sexuality because of my project, without taking the time to get to know me and what I'm about is quite petty and irresponsible.

The worst part is that the persons attacking me are part of the group of people that I am trying to help by donating a significant portion of the proceeds from my collection to the FtM surgery fund, which helps transgendered persons pay for top surgery.
Yesterday I broke down crying, I couldn't seem to stop the flow of tears. Even after I managed to pull myself together, my emotional state was quite fragile. Do you have any idea how hard it is to put on mascara while holding back tears? What people don't realize is that this project is not just some pretty pictures that I go around snapping, this project is a piece of my soul. Thus, by attacking it, you are attacking an inherent part of me. It hurts, it literally broke my heart yesterday to face so much criticism and even more to be told that my love and whole acceptance of someone isn't enough.

I called a friend of mine, a transguy, who wholly supports my project and has agreed to be a model for me, crying. He was so supportive and reminded me of how many people believe in me and my project, and that I cannot allow someone, who doesn't even know me, to make me even consider giving up.

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[MrTheTrav]

fuck labels. you're you. and you like what you like. how dare someone try to tell you what you are/are not capable of. i say fuck em. but not literally lol. they dont deserve your love. never stop being the sexy nerdy artist that you are.

[femmedrea]

@MrTheTrav You're awesome! Thanks for keeping me up last night, btw, 4 hours of sleep is awesome.

[newera88]

WOW!!! I never thought this would happen! Your doing a wonderful job trying to show/educate people about the LGBT community and the and your own people gang up on you for WHAT YOU LIKE?! WTF?

Keep doing what your doing mama - Forget all the negativity and continue with your work. Can't wait to see the finished product =]

Much Love

[femmedrea]

@newera88 Thank you so much for your support. Yeah, it broke my heart :(

[laidbaqq]

so you don't like dick, why is that a problem? There are some people who are also repulsed by feet, should that too be an issue? Just because we have issue with one thing, doesn't mean we cannot like the rest of a person.

bleh. sometimes some people in the community are a bit sensitive [its only the truth] and jump the gun at any little thing.

[sexualfuturist]

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[ctrapani77]

Sorry about that sweetie

[ctrapani77]

@MrTheTrav Damn right!