Re: Real Talk Diva Women & Domestic Violence Situations: I've been abused too

I have been in 3 domestic violence relationships. Once as a teen and then twice in my adulthood. I now leave any guy that even makes strong suggestions. (Don't tell me what to do dammit!) I no longer get beat everyday or even have an argument where I am emotionally attacked daily. I don't get strangled everyday anymore and I don't have to sleep with a lunatic that sleeps with his arms and legs around me so that I can't move. I am allowed to go to the bathroom by myself, hold my own wallet and talk whenever I want to. It is a wonderful feeling.
Today I have gotten an apology of sorts from 2 and I accept for the most part but the last guy was too vicious and malicious. I really do wish that I had assisted him in taking his own life back then instead of trying to kill myself. I don't know where he is and I've been told by the battered women society and the church that I have to forgive in order to heal but I tell ya what. "No". He is NOT FORGIVEN! He is lucky that I graciously keep my much bigger older brothers at bay because I wont have them spend a day in jail over a piece of street trash like him.
Unfortunately my left cheek bone still sticks out farther than the right from being hit so much in the face. I can no longer have children because of these men. You are still young and you have a chance to get away and start over. Seize your moment. Get into a battered women's shelter and everything will be fine. They will help you with everything and equip you with tools to help with future relationships. You have to give up the Job. You have to disappear for a little while. They will take care of you at the shelter and help you to transition back into society. Remember you are worth it and when you look back you wont even believe this happened to you.
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE:
1-800-799-SAFE
1-800-799-7233

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[GumBallCityChanel]

Dear Lil Chez1. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I would like to chat with you offline in the private message box about this case? Can you talk?

[lilchez1]

@GumBallCityChanel Sure I can talk. Send me a message and I'll get back.

[bassl73]

Thank you for sharing. I have been in a shelter for battered women and I saw women who dropped thier cases when I couldn't possibly drop mine for fear that I would be killed, Keep the awareness out there because it is so easy for women to think that they are in the wrong when they have been victimized. Without support women tend to feel alone and at fault, Many do not know that there are shelters and avocates. I didn't until I was forced into one by a family member.

[lilchez1]

@bassl73 Yes. Its often the fear of homelessness that keeps women stuck. I was so scared of it because my mother was homeless for many many years. I had to just give in and suck it up. I re-built my life and I am much happier. Thanks so much for commenting and I'm glad you got away. One of my friends from the shelter is still involved with her abuser now after 8 years. She's with someone else right now. I told her she better not go back. Who gets abused for that long & was already homeless.

[TheCi1988]

I didn't mean to dislike your video I'm sorry I meant to press play.

[lilchez1]

@TheCi1988 Thats alright. If you click like right after dislike it takes it away.

[ladysarg1]

I applaud you and your courage to step out and share your story. You are a blessing to someone going through right now. You will be blessed for being such a blessing. I truely love you for your courage. Sending hugs to you. You are a beautiful person inside and out. Again, Thank you for sharing. Strong, beautiful sister.

[bassl73]

@lilchez1 You're right. To try to leave in an abusive situation is risky and financially strained.  It's hard to just move with out your abuser knowing. I'm glad you have rebuilt your life and you are such an incredible success. It's wonderful that you are still proactive in keeping that message out there. There is a need for more people like you. It is hard to just open up like that when you have had to be so guarded f or so long. I hope your friend listens to your advice. Thank you!

[TheCi1988]

Wow I feel your pain Thanks for making this video that is such a blessing that your strong enough to put your feelings out there to show young woman that there not alone and there are people out there who can help you. Love you sis I hope you have a blessed day.

[DrZuli]

ALL men are like this.