Overcoming the Fear of Social Anxiety - Episode #6

http://www.yourcharismacoach.com Have you ever felt awkward when starting a new conversation? (I know I have!) Happily, one of my viewers kindly wrote in to ask me for an effective way to overcome social anxiety when talking to new people. I was out in Trafalgar Square, London and decided that it'd be a good place to show you how & why enjoying the conversation is far more important than being focused on the overall impression that you are making. This really helps you to get rid of nervousness and appear confident when dealing with people.

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[MegaTruthseeker101]

hey buddy why dont u bring some one who has social phobia and then u guide him how to cover phobia in real situation. i.e 1st he tries to communicate than u guide him that this was wring in ur comm. than he try again.........

[YourCharismaCoach]

@MegaTruthseeker101 Great idea! A lot of my coaching focuses on doing this. Need to work out how I can convey that it 10 mins though. Also need to find someone who is happy to be filmed that also has social anxiety (tricky...) but I'll work on it. Thanks for the idea!

[yourtheman45]

Shutup!!!!!!

[nikkibabe231]

Thanks for the tip! I love the accent btw :)

[ddhamilt]

@YourCharismaCoach Well check out my channel for ideas if you'd like - as someone who overcame SA with cognitive behavioral therapy, I talk a lot about changing beliefs (cognitive) for this. What I've found is CBT is very effective in overcoming in the sense of managing anxiety. Right now I"m in the process of trying to be totally free of it using something called BSFF (Be Set Free Fast) - an energy psychology technique. I'm experimenting on myself so I will see!

[YourCharismaCoach]

@ddhamilt Good point. I'd actually like to address the topic of social anxiety in future, in a lot more detail. What do you think would make a useful video that would be helpful to people?

[ddhamilt]

@YourCharismaCoach Ok fair enough. I'm down with social freedom. Just want to make the point people don't NEED to do that, like one of the comments below, possibly could be discouraging to them, that's all.

[YourCharismaCoach]

@ddhamilt Perhaps not socially normal, but definitely socially free! I agree with you that people should not compare themselves to me but focus on turning up the volume of their own communication to a point where they don't feel suppressed.

[ddhamilt]

@fredbloggs02 Believe me, no one who is socially normal does this. Don't compare yourself to this video, he is going way to the extreme here and it's not natural to go jumping in front of people like a rabbit and giving them compliments. I'm almost certain he did pickup stuff, which I did in the past as well. It is needy and it doesn't work. You can tell he's nervous and it's not just the camera. I used to do this kind of thing, and it's just annoying and weird socially to people.

[fredbloggs02]

@ddhamilt I think I might jump into somebody if they really interested me however likely I felt I'd screw it up. Starting a conversation cold seems... I don't know if it would ever work for me. I'm not the sort of happy chappy with the light compliments on the tip of my tongue. It just seems... If that were the only sort of conversations I ever had, I'm not sure if I would rather not. Perhaps this is what people with SA generally convince themselves... Who knows.

[ddhamilt]

Hey buddy - good concepts and ideas, but you seems pretty anxious and like it's forced. And someone with SA, would be freaking out, this would be considered "exposure therapy" which doesn't work well alone for overcoming social anxiety. CBT does work the best of all therapies thus far. No one who is socially normally would jump in somebody with a forced positive vibe. Very pickup-y I'm sorry to say. I would never recommend doing that. Take this from someone who has overcome SA.