Orgasm is About Pleasing Yourself First

http://www.dodsonandross.com Women need to learn how to be "self full". When it comes to orgasm, we have to put ourselves first.

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• Betty Dodson
• Carlin Ross
• dodson and ross
• women
• sex
• orgasm
• clitoris
• pleasure
• body image
• masturbation

[TheLaughingOut]

You contradict yourselves in this video. A woman is worried because she can't orgasm and her partner wants her to and then you go on to say that it's the women that are pleasers and the men don't care. Men certainly (and obviously) care about pleasing their partners. And THEN you go on to say what you think a man wants and you tell women to deliver that. So in the end you're telling women to be pleasers.

I love you girls, but this video.. sucked. I'm sorry. If I missed something please tell me.

[carlincherrybomb]

@TheLaughingOut not really. During the sex act, you need to focus on your own pleasure and stop worrying about whether your partner is being pleased to orgasm. You need to get out of your head and into your body. That's the point. Then, taking a step back and analyzing the world of dating, you want to be attractive (we're not talking about pleasing men). And being orgasmic makes you more attractive.

So if you focus on your own pleasure during sex you'll have a better relationship.

[thelittlemuffet]

I wouldn't even call a mole an imperfection, to be honest.

[Mokie1991]

when im in the moment i dont care how i look at all :)

and i care about pleasing my bf but my orgasm comes first... no pun intended

[beyondEV]

you're damn right that (smart) men want orgasmic women. if not they would go buy a perfect looking sexdoll.

[8187daytheory]

Sooooo yesterday I was jerking off, but I decided to switch it up from the regular stroking to just rubbing the head. And my god! That was the best nut I had since....well since those first couple of times that I started to jerk off. It was fantastic! I went to sleep like a baby right after. Just wanted to throw that out there since these comments are all about sex LOL!

[thaskunk1]

social pressure causes both men and female to focus on performance. Please others before you can please yourself thats what society tells us. In a loving relationship who doesn't want to see your partner to reach an optimal state of a arousal? but does your partner really care about his/her own pleasure internally?It's hard for a pleasing type guy to think hey my cock works fine it must be her problem but sometimes that could be the reality.Now about think how hard it can be for the woman.....

[alittlebitofperil]

Seriously though, who cares about a mole? We are so influenced by the media and that we have to be perfect airbrushed 'beauties'. Imperfections are a million times more attractive than 'perfect' bodies.

[alittlebitofperil]

@carlincherrybomb I do think its very important to be orgasmic as a person. But i also think its VERY important to be able to be selfless and not ALWAYS interested in your own orgasm. Because giving one to someone else is an outstandingly beautiful experience. Of course we are responsible for our own pleasure, but sometimes its nice to not have to think about that and think about the other persons pleasure instead. Even if that means you don't have an orgasm yourself. Giving is great.

[makeupbabeforever]

Hi im 13 and my boyfriend wants me to give him a hand job in class.. i want to but i am a little scared i know im ready to though ... ere else could we do it other than class ?? x

[thelittlemuffet]

@Emilyaucoin I don't find them unsightly at all. The difference with stretch marks, though, is that they signify weight gain. Though they are not inherently visually unappealing, the reason behind why a person would have them may make that person self-conscious,

[AzizaMoghal]

I looooooooooove you guys! You are the most wonderful women I've ever seen :-D <3

[Emilyaucoin]

@thelittlemuffet what about streach marks ?