@MrFrothinger None of us have all the answers. But I choose to see my life as something that is maleable. When I see it that way, it's easier to get out of the stuck spots because some of those patterns that seem impossible to break then seem approachable. If I think that I can do nothing about them, then I die in them. And I can't let myself do that because I start heading down suicide lane....and that is not a place I will let myself continue down. It's my choice to go there or not.
@MrFrothinger It's all a matter of perspective my dear, Froth. You're assuming a lot about me that may or may not be accurate. You don't really know where I've come from. My perspective comes from living and knowing change in my own life.
@LosAngelesYogaNidra - for some reason, I expected a more charitable take on it from you, Aurora. It's easy to talk about choice in loneliness as a young woman, with all her faculties intact. It's also REALLY easy to damn the lonely as architects of their own destiny.
@MrFrothinger Everything we do is a function of choice, including feeling lonely. There is always an opportunity to find intrigue even if you are lying on your death bed, even if your family is wiped out, even if you have mental problems. I never said it's easy. But it's always a choice. It's your own responsibility to pull yourself out of something that doesn't feel good by changing your perspective. When you expect others to fulfill you then you give away your freedom to choose.
@LosAngelesYogaNidra - how is loneliness ever a function of choice? You are the person that Ralph McTell wrote Streets of London for - take a listen. Loneliness is choiceless when e.g. age and infirmity prevent a person from reaching out to the world, when a person is robbed of their loved ones by disease or accident, when social maladjustment prevents a person from making contact with others, when depression robs a person of the drive to connect...the list goes on.
@MrFrothinger None of us have all the answers. But I choose to see my life as something that is maleable. When I see it that way, it's easier to get out of the stuck spots because some of those patterns that seem impossible to break then seem approachable. If I think that I can do nothing about them, then I die in them. And I can't let myself do that because I start heading down suicide lane....and that is not a place I will let myself continue down. It's my choice to go there or not.
LosAngelesYogaNidra 4 months ago
@MrFrothinger It's all a matter of perspective my dear, Froth. You're assuming a lot about me that may or may not be accurate. You don't really know where I've come from. My perspective comes from living and knowing change in my own life.
LosAngelesYogaNidra 4 months ago
@LosAngelesYogaNidra - for some reason, I expected a more charitable take on it from you, Aurora. It's easy to talk about choice in loneliness as a young woman, with all her faculties intact. It's also REALLY easy to damn the lonely as architects of their own destiny.
MrFrothinger 4 months ago
@MrFrothinger Everything we do is a function of choice, including feeling lonely. There is always an opportunity to find intrigue even if you are lying on your death bed, even if your family is wiped out, even if you have mental problems. I never said it's easy. But it's always a choice. It's your own responsibility to pull yourself out of something that doesn't feel good by changing your perspective. When you expect others to fulfill you then you give away your freedom to choose.
LosAngelesYogaNidra 4 months ago
Yes, I think that's right, and you do that out of fear.
abre01 4 months ago
...don't get me wrong - I like your content and the way you think, but this was a facile oversimplification.
Just sayin'...
MrFrothinger 4 months ago
@LosAngelesYogaNidra - how is loneliness ever a function of choice? You are the person that Ralph McTell wrote Streets of London for - take a listen. Loneliness is choiceless when e.g. age and infirmity prevent a person from reaching out to the world, when a person is robbed of their loved ones by disease or accident, when social maladjustment prevents a person from making contact with others, when depression robs a person of the drive to connect...the list goes on.
MrFrothinger 4 months ago
How is loneliness ever choiceless?
LosAngelesYogaNidra 4 months ago
@AGentertainment Why do you disagree, A?
LosAngelesYogaNidra 4 months ago
@MrFrothinger I'm still not convinced that they are actually different.
LosAngelesYogaNidra 4 months ago