Pamela K's first music video from her long awaited CD, The Many Faces of Love, co-authored with her husband Arnold. This video remind the listener that love still exists and that marriage still works that reaffirms that love can win out over adversity and deep disappointment.
I Choose You
Im sorry sweetheart, but I cant do this anymore Those words, like bullets coming from her husbands mouth devastated Sandra. Her husband of eight years was walking away from their marriage. Sandra knew why. Although they have been trying to have children for seven years, Sandra has been unable to conceive.
Childlessness is one of the leading causes of divorce, even among evangelicals. The urge to procreate and nurture is instinctual and desired by most couples. This desire appears to be supported by scripture as the Bible talks about the blessings of children as a gift from God, (Psalm 127:3-5). How then should a couple feel when they are unable to conceive? How should they respond to the looks and comments from those who see children as a natural progression to marriage?
Some may say to a childless couple having children is not in Gods plan so be happy with life, or others may suggest adoption as an alternative. Those options may not be enough to a yearning couple who have not experienced the wonder of the first flutter, kick, or sonogram of the heart beat of their baby. It may not be that easy for them to let go of that particular dream or desire.
If you are a couple going through this issue you must remember to nurture that which connects you both. Although children are a blessing the relationship began with two. Find joy and fulfillment in each other. Love and care for each others emotional wellbeing. Share your thoughts, including that which frustrates you. Be open about your desires to be parents. This will ensure that the issue of childlessness does not become the proverbial 300 pound gorilla in the room that you are trying to ignore. It also helps to ensure that bitterness and resentment does not take root in your hearts and lives. Pray together, laugh together, love together and be a support to each other until all the lacks are alleviated.
Childlessness in but one issue that could negatively impact a couples relationship; some couples experience financial problems, unfaithfulness, or lives drifting in opposite directions. These issues can lead to separation and divorce. Be careful that nothing is allowed to enter into your union and disrupt your love. Whatever the issue, Prov. 3:3 says, Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Staying committed, especially when there is deep disappointment is not easy, but Solomon in Prov. 3:5-6 tells us, Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall make your paths straight. We can trust God to help us navigate through life in spite of the curves and bumps in the road; He can make them become like straight paths.
Our song, I Choose You, is a reminder that marriage is for keeps and that love can win over difficult situations if we remain faithful to our vows. My husband and I have been married 12 years and we have no children. Knowing the longing in his heart to hold a child of his own, sometimes my heart ached and bled as I saw my husband watching other men play with their children. It has been challenging for both of us to say the least. But I thank God for the strength He has given us to remain committed to each other and to tell each other daily, in many ways, that even though there are no children I Still Choose You.
We pray that whatever your situation, you will reassure your spouse daily that he/she is still your number one choice.
Prayer: God, Father of all, grant us today the strength to hold on to those things you cherish and the will to value each other above self. Bless our union and make it an example. In the name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
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GREAT!
SuicideStudio 1 year ago
I watched your video and cried for the power of LOVE. Glory be to God!!!
JOSHUASHOUSECA 2 years ago
Awesome! Can't wait for what's coming next!!!!
rtbrown06 2 years ago