transactional analysis in action

transactional analysis is a way of learning the

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• transactional analysis
• the success institute
• paul puckridge
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[theeAlphaOne]

User "Theramintrees" has a insightful video series on this , to anyone learning this I would strongly suggest you watch his videos , they are concise and right to the point and further, explaining how to stop destructive interactions with others and bringing them into a more adult to adult way of interacting with those who always seem to be trying to put you into your child frame of mind, including the cross up, switch, and payoff. Very interesting for anyone trying to understand these states.

[soulfuluniverse]

Some of the examples in this video are wrong. Most noticably:

Jack and Jill: "That proposal was hopeless! - Shut-up! ..." That is not a parent-child transaction, but a parent-parent transaction, because Jill is returning the blame.

And: "You're a jerk! - You're a jerk" -> This is not a child-child transaction, but again a parent-parent transaction, because both speakers are taking the authorative role and no one is backing down.

[christo930]

@soulfuluniverse OK, I didn't see it like that, but I am just learning about it. I plan on buying the 'games people play' book next time I go to the used book store, so I will know more about it then.

[soulfuluniverse]

@christo930 I can see how you might feel that name calling is something that is typically ascribed to the behaviour of a child because it's something we see in every day life. In transactional analysis however "the child ego state" is not definded by "everything that a child does". The "controlling parent ego state" is definde by behaviror that judges and manipulates. Name calling is a judgement. And that's why the example in the video is incorrect. Watch Theramintrees video for more details.

[soulfuluniverse]

@christo930 I can see how you might feel that name calling is something that is typically ascribed to the behaviour of a child because it's something we see in every day life. In transactional analysis however "the child ego state" is not definded by "everything that a child does". The "controlling parent ego state" is definde by behaviror that judges and manipulates. Name calling is a judgement. And that's why the example in the video is incorrect. Watch Theramintrees video for more details.

[christo930]

@soulfuluniverse Name calling is child behavior.

[Wargoat6]

Parent and Child have their place. No one of the three is better than any of them,it's more of a matter of how they are used. The Parent is useful for reestablishing order. The Child is great for having fun, learning, or intimacy.

[kidsKILL123]

Adult (Ah-Dalt). That was how you said Adult(Uh-Dalt). You must be from Briten.

[mark1983peace]

You got a few of the transactions wrong

[Nicenice404]

I don't think that the Parent or Child states are bad. With some friends/collegues, it is a way to keep things stable, and can create structure. At your workplace where harmony is needed, having someone constantly play a Parent or Child role is sometimes unbreakable, and therefore filling the role of the opposite allows things to flow smoothly. That's just my opinion, though.

[WhatSayestThou]

A lot of users on Youtube need to see these videos LOL. Thanks for explaining it like a 5 year old =)