Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a clinical and developmental psychologist and the author of the bestselling book, Hold On to Your Kids. In this DVD by the same title, he explores some of the ideas from the book and helps bring them to life. This short clip focuses on why we have lost the context to parent in today's culture. For more information, go to: www.gordonneufeld.com
Please can you put some of your "Power to Teach" excerpts onto You Tube as well? They are great to promote the material. Thanks
ParentsPartner 3 months ago
Time out is usually used when kids can't get along and end up fighting. I rarely use it to punish. If it is done in a calm supportive and empathic way I really don't see it damaging the relationship. It is one of those things that really comes down to how it is presented. If maintaining a good relationship is always the goal of a parent it is possible to discipline in any number of ways because a parent who has a strong attachment won't lose it if that is a core goal.
tsicotte 11 months ago
There is nothing wrong with taking a break. It's how we may go about getting it. I usually remove myself rather than asking them to leave when it's gets to be too much
RitaAnderson 1 year ago
I agree that it seems like you're missing the point. Our parenting practices are concentrating on taking things away from children (that they care about) and using our relationship *against* our kids- saying if you're not "good" you have to go away from me. This has a horrible effect over time and kids end up not caring. "I don't care", "whatever", "doesn't matter", etc. There are ways of getting a "break" without doing this.
honumarin 3 years ago
that's really too bad that is what you came away with from this. he says it is "us" that needs the time out at that point. however, that's not the message here. but not everything speaks to everyone...
treeworshipper 3 years ago
Sooooo let me get this right we dont send them away for a break when they have driven us to wits end and our parenting is not proper or rational. I get that the relationship is the most important piece and totally agree, emotionally we can still be together but there comes a point where it is good for both to have a break
analyzethis77 3 years ago