Emotional Resilience: Unresolved Feelings

David Viscott M.D. on how to resolve the unfinished business of your past.

The Do's and Don'ts of "Natural Therapy"

Do:

Tell the truth. Face life openly. What you avoid imprisons you.
Say what you mean, feel, and believe.
Accept yourself as you are. Accept others as they are as well.
Know and admit your weaknesses.
Stop trying to prove yourself.
Let go of the past.
Give up your false expectations.
Take responsibility for your life and how it turned out. What you are willing to take responsibility for frees you.
Have a dream for a better life and commit to it.
Be kind to yourself every day.
Find something to be grateful for and remember it.
FORGIVE.

Don't:

Don't try. Just be.
Don't lie.
Don't try to change or fix others.
Don't try to control others.
Don't expect the person who hurt you to apologize.
Don't expect people to be nicer to you than they are to themselves.
Don't expect others to recognize your goodness or accomplishments.
Don't expect people to understand you.
Don't test others.
Don't blame others.
Don't hold a grudge.
Don't expect the world to be anything but the way it is right now.
Don't wait for permission to do what is best for you.



-from Emotional Resilience by David Viscott, M.D.

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[BellaaMarlene]

easier fucking said than done

[ProfessorMystic]

@BellaaMarlene that's right, nobody can do it -- it's a lifelong thing. Thanks for being honest! "Reach for your own stars and find victory on your own terms."

[kraftymomma1979]

I forgot to say "thanks" for posting this. I used to listen to his show. He was the real deal, and I've read most of his books.

[ProfessorMystic]

No problem. I must have listened to this tape 10-20 times. It is one of the best modern psychological books that I have found. He crosses into the spiritual realm as well when he says things like "you became the thing you hated the most". That is really heavy stuff, and that is exactly what happens when you hold grudges for a long time...

[souljourney00]

beautiful...thanks



[Michinoni]

thanks

[kraftymomma1979]

I wore out this tape! I think David Viscott died before he had a chance to fully get his message out. There have been other "talk" psychologists but none with the depth and sincerity of Dr. Viscott. Someone explained extended anger and grudges thusly, "Hating and staying angry with someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." I hurried up and starting let stuff go then and there. I have benefitted in every way since then.

[kraftymomma1979]

An awesome psychiatrist who tried to reach all people, not just the clients in his office. He was very wise and died too young. For all the doubting brought on by an uncertain economy, I recommend his books and tapes as a way to find new paths for ourselves. Check him out.