Is It Wrong To Say I Love You With No Intent To Marry?

http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/questions-for-couples-ho...

Relationship Advice: If you tell someone you love them a lot, are they going to expect you to marry them? Are you leading them on by telling them you love them when you're not sure if you want to get married?

Brought to you by http://www.AskDanAndJennifer.com

Category:

Howto & Style

Tags:

• love
• marriage
• relationship
• advice
• dating
• tips
• married
• marry
• commitment

[Jacob951]

People get so hung up on words... how about listening to some actions?

[MatthewBain]

Marriage is not solely a religious construct. It is a social construct that may exist with or without religion. It is the formalization of a natural human commitment. Just as love and sex should not be conflated, neither should religious marriage and civil marriage, or marriage as sacrament and marriage as social contract. Broadly referring to all marriage as a religious construct is a pretty careless oversight.

[yoOfelia]

I feel this video is incomplete. It would be helpful to point out that "love" can mean lots of things, for example "You're the most fascinating person I've ever met," or "I hope you always pay for my ____," or "I want to always be there for you, sacrifice for you, bear your children, and grow old with you." Obviously that last meaning would lead to marriage. What a youthful question.

[4711Heart]

What Dan said was accurate. If there was not a single religion in existance, than there would be no such thing as marriage. However, there would be something that would probably eventually arise in it's place that would become similar to if not practically the same but called something different if at all. Along as your happy, thats all that matters.

[vsg1980]

You can say "I love you" with no intent to marry if you want to. There is nothing wrong with it as long as you and you partner are on the same page with the relationship.

[mu86neer]

it's true... u can't say it and pull it back

i'm so impressed by a girl and we kept in tough for almost 7 months ,, but we have never ever said that we like each other.

it might be because we know the consequences of this word....lol

[invista360]

Attraction isnt a choice.

If women in public and your girlfriends take an interest in your guy throw all of your logical reasons why you would leave him out the window.

You want a man who is:

1. An emotional challenge.

2. A guy that controls his emotions.

3. A guy who is confident with self esteem.

Is a guy that says "I love you" twice a day within a month a guy that controls his emotions or a desperate, needy, insecure wussy?

And who ever said anything about not meeting in the middle?

[uta1984]

if i were in a relationship a month or more old and he acted the way you recommended above, i would end it immediately. unless all i wanted was sex then maybe i would stick with it while i am satisfied. what is the point in trying with a guy who refuses to meet me in the middle...has to come from both sides. Haha "make her work for it" there are plenty of fish in the sea without psychological power games.

[Janelilian]

Actually Marriage isn't a religion based concept. In the earlier years it was a means of granting property rights(Spouse to Spouse, Parent to child etc...).The church didn't get involved until the 1500's when the council of Trent thought that someone needed to witness this type of bonding, thus it changed from state regulated to church regulated. Just thought you ought to know.

Love all your vids btw.