Hurting Your Teenager's Feelings [R U Listening?]

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[asorita1]

@thesugerstick have you ever tried leaving her a long letter explaining how you feel when she talks to you this way?

[KISSYPR]

What about if my son is the one with the big mouth and they see this and turn it against us.

[thesugerstick]

my mom calls me a no talent loser, an ugly lazy shit, that i discust her, that my face makes her want to vomit, a bitch, and she never says sorry. living with her is like living in a house made of egg shell. i dont deserve what she calls me and half the time i dont even know what i did wrong. she knocks stuff over and makes me clean it up, while calling me lazy and a whore. when i was younger my mom would tell me to stand up agenst bullys, but what do i do when my mother IS the bully?

[JRMCNEA]

@AndyHarglesis smarter in capacity of knowledge. But a teenager has no experience in the world. Which is why we have laws protecting them to a arbitrary age of 18. And every teenager gets in trouble for that same ignorant statement you made.Just because you are "smarter" then your parents doesn't mean you will get away with what you are doing. again ignoring the fact that when said smart teen get in over their head they run to their stupid parents to fix it.

[AndyHarglesis]

@JRMCNEA In many cases teenagers can be proven smarter than their parents.

[s4lj4y]

Good word

[JRMCNEA]

I love how people use a general term like "Kids are going to make mistake" when the reality of it is teenagers think they are smarter and more clever then their parents. And even though they continue to find out this is not the truth they continue to try and pull stuff. Its not about making mistakes. Its about being unremorseful for making them in the first place. The idea of well I did it now so what can you do about it. I'm not taking about forgetting a book for school. But disregard for rules

[JRMCNEA]

Yeah Because preparing your kids to live in the real world where people don't give s shit about them is less important then telling them when they screw up? i would love to meet that boss who fire a person after they don't do what they where directed to numerous times. there are more important thing in live then your feeling. Like food shelter oh yeah and your life. Which will be in danger if you don't know how to deal with criticism. Teenagers. R U listening? Act your age. your not 2 anymore.

[Kidasha]

@dadoody hey! its not like our generation doesn't have any problems of our own! with the economy as it is now we can't find jobs and don't have money to go to college. As for going to war, many people I know joined the army because they couldn't pay for college and didn't have a choice. Also, cutting is no joke! Its a serious issue that many teens have died from

[94fulLmp]

very good