Narcissism and Social Media

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[wendybridge83]

Having been married to someone with NPD I have been worried that my eldest son who was exposed to his behaviour the most at a crucial stage in his life may also develop the characteristics. It's always a battle in my mind whether he is narcissistic or just being a teenager.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@wendybridge83 - Yes that can be tough. Steve and I will think about doing a show on this really soon.

[kimandSteveCooper]

Good question. The word narcissism has changed its meaning through history. NPD was poorly named in the first place as narcissism itself is not really unhealthy, where NPD is. However now the word narcissism more often relates to the disorder. You can find an entertaining article tracing the history of the word narcissism's various meanings on our site NarcissismCured.

[vevstad]

Agree with the "just being a teenager" comment; plus anyone can become "engaged" in something relating to themselves, even social media, without being narcissistic. Temporary loss of balance or perspective is rather common, and most recover without help. 

[kimandSteveCooper]

@vevstad - precisely! We are all interested in ourselves and that is normal and healthy (within reason!) The challenge for parents of teenagers is to keep a healthy and strong attachment with their kids. That can be tough with all the competition that is around these days. Doing stuff as a family that the kids want to post on their profiles (we did some fire twirling and also played softball over Christmas) is one way to bridge the gap with your kids peers.

[IamChrisLang]

I see this all the time on social media sites in marketing. We see many many profiles that are managed profiles produced by teams of employees that masquerade as real people just working from home like I do.

These managed profiles get way more followers and traction on these social media sites. Where narcissism comes into play is when you try compete these managed marketers.

We become obsessed with the impossible, and lose touch with what is really important, our business and our families...

[kimandSteveCooper]

@IamChrisLang - That's interesting Chris. I didn't know that happened but it makes sense it would. Having unrealistic expectations of what we can achieve is certainly a HUGE factor in a person developing a narcissistic shell that can stop them being able to relate to people close to them in a genuine way. I know there have been times developing my own marketing strategies that I have wasted way too much time going after pie in the sky rather than graciously accepting what was in front of me!

[gerri49]

Brilliant and illuminating as usual. You have enabled me acheive greater harmony and stability in my little piece of England. Thank you and God bless x

[cabellk]

You have helped me so much, thank you.

[aht0011]

Narcissists ultimately crave control due to their deep - seated insecurity. Social media offers the perfect kind of control for them. They can portray themselves as they wish. They can 'feed their monster' 24/7.

Thank you kim and steve. you are my reality anchor!

[EnerGeeOne]

Excellent presentation ... I love learning more about this and you are the go to guys IMHO. Thanks!

[jbaileyl]

Steve and Kim are onto something! Love their/your work.

[Videosoftina]

Keep up the good work. It's important that people don't just make the word 'narcissism' some sort of mute buzz word. NPD is dangerous especially to people in relationships with these most effective deceivers. Thank you for helping to keep us safe. P.S. I'm a boomer by the way :)

[V0v333]

A hint of enlightment it's only to deter you and entangle you again into the web of lies. So why haven't I ran for my life in almost 10 years of delusional behavior? Because this personality disorder is so subtle and undetectable. It's a love/hate because you hate who they are and love who they could be if you could just hit their head with a brick and make it all well.  The truth is their demons are so intertwine that to get rid of one requires untangling an entire nest of them.

[tinahill5433]

@wendybridge83 Because I have teenagers who drives me crazy...lol plus my friend is a psychiatrist ,she told me that all teenagers are narcissistic. It starts at about 13 and ends about 19, when the brain finishes processing. : )

[SondraSings]

Hello, yes I think that self-centeredness is rampant in society today, but NPD in a love relationship shows itself rather differently than even the DSM describes.

[topedge21]

Thank you both for your work in this area. Keep it up