I'm a grown-ass man, darn it.

I noticed the Baby Beaver Bunch's topic this week and it struck a chord, so I made a video.

(this was supposed to coat-tail the baby beaver's video, but apparently I'm the first one to post for their topic this week. oops)

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• lesbian
• gay
• lgbtq

[BasicallyHaley]

heyyy it's Haley from babybeaverbunch! We (after much confusion) got a video up, and we're extremely flattered that you made this video, thanks for making my day!!!

[cautiousplay]

thanks haley - i appreciate that.

[disbemissann]

I love this video! I am a straight girl, but I have really short "boy-ish" hair, and usually dress like a tomboy. Yet I have a boyfriend. Looks have nothing to do with sexuality.

[stjesuskat666]

@madison1234566 My gay friends and I also sometimes say "that's gay," but NEVER negatively. We often say it to describe something we like. Sometimes we use the term to laugh at ourselves lightheartedly when we do something that fits a stereotype. However, we only ever use it amongst each other/people who understand how we mean it.

This isn't the exact same phrase, but I remember a friend of mine (who is gay) noticing me wearing flannel and saying, "you're looking very dyke-tastic today. :D"

[FilMarck]

She looks pretty, it's a she right? :P

[DatSlowpoke]

There is a world of difference between a "grown-ass man" and being a "grown ass-man" I happen to be the former

[ohmaryjane]

"Heard the stories",lol. That is so cute.

[madison1234566]

I 100% agree, but the problem is also partly that some gay people play along with it... Most of my gay friends will gladly tell you what role they fit into best, and will even sometimes ask other gay people.. and while I'm sure they mean it all in good fun, those outside of the gay community may hear what they're saying and take it too literally.. We've gotta stop giving people a reason to stereotype us :(

Some of my gay friends are also users of the phrase "that's gay" too.. also not my fav.

[iammeiamjimmy]

i love hearing different peoples views about gender stereotypes, i am a biolgical female identify 'fluid' but i am currently in a 'straight' relationship. it is so hard to explain who i am but the answer is always 'i am me'. The idea of being stereotyped into a gender role to fit the hetrosexual norm is outdated, itno linger applies in todays society. It doesnt matter who we are or how we dress or who we love, we are who we are and should be free from this box that society tries to put us in.

[KELSCENE]

Nail on the head, Jess, nail on the head.

[romeo21208]

I hate that question, and I love your opinion!

[Mymoonlightray]

I hear that one a lot. Who is the man and who is the woman. The straight relationship is based on roles, rules, etc. they have to view homosexuality from their perspective. Their attraction to each other is based on opposite attract. One is phyically stronger while the other is phyically weaker, one buys the dinner, while the other makes the dinner, etc. When I hear that question, it is a limited view on relationships and no knowledge of les relationships.The question annoys the hell out of me