Re: Adoptee speaking on loss...

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Nonprofits & Activism

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• anti
• adoption
• pro
• abortion

[patiencepoet]

A child is statistically 6X more likely to die at the hands of a non-biologically related caregiver than in the care of a biologically related caregiver. Adoption is wrong.

[chicagociccone]

@patiencepoet I would appreciate this comment infinitely more if you could cite a source.

[angelkissedredhead]

My younger siblings were adopted. They have special needs and lived their entire lives in an orphanage in an Eastern European country. The youngest is 4 and he weighs less than the average 12 month old baby, due to starvation and neglect. If they had not been adopted by my parents, they would have been institutionalized in 1-3 years, as is the custom in their home country. For special needs children, the survival rate in an institution is very low. That was their harsh reality.

[chicagociccone]

@angelkissedredhead What about the harsh realities that American children face? Why do we value more the lives of children overseas rather than the lives of American children who can make a difference in this country. Americans need to stop trying to fix the problems of the world. If we let overseas adoptions continue to take place, there will not be a country left for anyone.

[liorzt]

Hi. I want to thank you for your honesty. Me and my husbant were just proved to adopt and it is an important reminderthat I am doing it for me.

I don't allow people to tell me that I am doing something great. I just want to be a mother. I hope that when I will get to it my child will be honest with me as you are. Still, i would llike my child to realy feel I'm his mom.

Do you have any tips how to make an adoptee to feel less bitter then you/

Thanks.Lior

[chicagociccone]

@liorzt If you can find some way to tell a child that their mother did not keep them in such a way that their life is not ripped apart, then sure, you might be able to be successful.

[golddread]

You are not ALONE sister!!!

[noellesuniverse]

Well said. Your pain was mine. I wasn't happy until I went home to Indian Country, married my husband- and started living.Then and only then did I know true love, family and yes, happiness. And you are right it's a sense of privilege and entitlement, as well as cash, that makes adoptions take place. I'm sure your adoption, as was mine, was all about the people who adopted you It's not. You are your own person, and entitled to your own life. May you find what you are looking for.

[arcturus915]

I was adopted into a dutch family,that often spoke dutch,and as time goes on i developed anger at that because that mirrored to me over over that I am not dutch,i am something else.Adoption is wrong-despite what people say-'youre parents must have loved you enough to take you in...Im not grateful,its more like I felt like some kinda degenerate...thank you for letting me voice my opinion about adoption.

[Chessa27]

Totally agree with your sardonic thoughts :) I find it so ridiculous that adopters are viewed as Such.Good.People and the adoptee, when not performing at optimum gratitude will always be viewed as having isshews.

BTW, good lord, did that prosepctive adopter call you bitter?! Now that's a fair sense of entitlement. Entitlement to have someone else's child call her Mom to assuage the unrealised goal of motherhood; and entitlement to label your intelligent realism as bitterness.

Take Care

[chicagociccone]

@kurtanddeb4ever I don't believe in god, and thus don't believe in anything god may or may not want. My birth mother found me years ago. The people who don't want you to find your birth mother are the people who want to keep the billion-dollar adoption industry booming. If they shut you up, they can sell more babies and make more money. Never stop looking, ever.

[liorzt]

thank you so much for your reply I will remember your words.whishing you happiness built from the inner strength you have. Lior