How to Handle a Narcissist

I've already talked about what NPD is and some of the characteristics of the disorder. Now I will go into some explanation of how to respond as you see the narcissist's behaviors being played out. Know that you cannot change another person but you can work on yourself. Reclaim your identity and stand firm in being "you"

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[DelusionDispeller]

In answer to the viewer that asked if this is more Dependent Personality Disorder. The mimicking can happen in both disorders for sure, but the narcissist tries to mimic for a different reason than the Dependent PD person. Narcissists copy people in order to feel like they "exist" at all. Dependents copy people in order to please them, be approved, be liked by them, and sometimes to even feel like they are better than what they are.

[iamestrella]

Please do a video about how to handle a narcissist stalker who attempts to mirror your life. The narcissist in my life moved from two states away to the house across the street from mine. She has adopted my hairstyle, my routine and has attempted enmesh herself into my life. I need advice.

[DelusionDispeller]

@iamestrella I am not sure how to make a video about this topic, because my experience with narcissists is that they tried to clone ME to look like them, not the other way around. I will tell you though, Anita decided she had to learn how to play keyboard, and I was the one who knew how to play first, so maybe that was her way of imitating me? Not sure, but I'm not really familiar with what you are describing. Let me know how you handle it all and how it goes, pleaease

[lelandf8]

your information and insights on this subject have helped me greatly as my narcissitic girlfriend ended our relationship of about 4 and a half months. and it has devistated me. i have never encountered a woman who treated me like she did. she is a CLASSIC NARCISSIST and i now realize i didnt stand a chance no matter what i did. youve made this easier to deal with and move on

[DelusionDispeller]

@lelandf8 I am so glad to hear that! If I can help in any way, just let me know. I will do my best to cyber-assist you or talk on the phone to advise. God bless.

~DD

[Truffles150111]

When you can't sever all ties, when he is your ex-husband and there are children envolved. What can I do. There is no reasoning with him. He is right, and feels he is master and knows all. I tell him we need a mediator and he disagrees with that. He says I cause all agruements and I feel trapped, there is no way around it.

[DelusionDispeller]

@Truffles150111 hello there. I have been in your situation at times. When it comes to children being involved in divorce or separation cases, visitation, etc, the only thing you can do is to work with the court systems to keep your children safe. Narcissists HATE the idea of mediation in the form of counseling or even talking, because to the N, the only problems there are HAS to be your fault. In my situation, the N went to counseling but still pinned the blame on me. That's why he was dx.

[DelusionDispeller]

I am just letting you all know that if there are comments that I feel are offensive, rude, narcissistic, I WILL exercise my right to remove them. That is called having boundaries, not being controlling, by the way :)

[dantespimp]

Question: Do narcissists tend to flip things around too when they're backed to a corner? My GF believes her way is the RIGHT way. Even when she is wrong she won't ever apologize. I've tried to compromise but the moment I do she uses my words against me to 'win' the fight. For ex: when I told her how upset I was that she was being physical flirtious with her ex (IN FRONT OF ME) she got angry and accused me of being 'selfish'. Is she a narcissist?

[cheerio020]

I'm glad I've found your channel, your video's are helping me a lot. My mother is an emotionally abusive narcissist and SO many of the things she does/says you have talked about in your video's. I'm 22 and live at home still and she does not charge me rent or charge me for groceries, everything else I pay for on my own. She does a REALLY excellent job of making me feel like I am the cause for all of her problems in life. She gives me anxiety/depression. I am looking in to options for moving out

[MissRetro03]

Love this message!

[LiffsaDanss]

@DelusionDispeller ....wouldn't this sound more like a dependant pers. disorder individual rather than necessarily a narcissist?? Because the dependant PD usually needs needs someone to copy; they're terrified to be on their own, and seek to mimic others because they are so devoid of a core sense of self-- my mother is a narcissist, AND is pathologically dependant also. Just my ideas, i could be wrong about the stalker described here....but it does sound like Dep. PD.

[LiffsaDanss]

Fabulous info...as always insightful, clearly communicated and relevant for the people going through these experiences. It's so true that in keeping these things a secret, it only empowers the pathology in the relationship. In doing so it further fuels and creates shame. And it's the shame that makes so many NOT reach out for help-- this would drive the cycle all over again; and hence, the dysfunction. This equals= entrapment+fear!

[Antiks72]

@Laughingblades Agreed.

[Laughingblades]

@Antiks72 You're right. To the narcissist, they are god or god like in some way, and to the religious narcissist, they are god's special chosen creation and quite possible have some kind of special divine purpose. I've read about and encountered religious narcissists, their religion seems to fuel their disorder and make it worse.

[Laughingblades]

There are no miracles and a narcissist who believes in a god is far more dangerous than one who doesn't, I don't know if there is any way to help a narcissist. Helping them, if it's possible, would probably take years, requiring that they learn about the disorder and learn to identify narcissistic characteristics in themselves, which then might just produce someone like Sam Vaknin who keeps the disorder in check but can't quite escape it.

It's not like sociopathy, it doesn't improve with age.

[iamestrella]

@DelusionDispeller A psychologist who I shared my experience with said that it may be some type of "co-morbidity" that causes the narcissist in my life to mimic me. The narcissist views my behavior or personality trait, copies it and then acts as though I've copied her. It's bizarre, unsettling and just plain toxic. At times, I feel as though she's stolen my life.