Facebook+superficial relationships

Recently, I decided to deactivate my Facebook profile again. If I don't communicate with Facebook "friends" in real life, what's the point of doing it on Facebook?

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[aganito]

Thank you for helping me understand the idea it was going through my head these last days. I have people who requested my friendship but never talked to me or sent me a message. People who posts just (I believe) for her/his own ego. You can comment on this post but never get an answer or anything. Fakebook should be called. I don't want to loose the ability to call someone and feel the sound of his/her voice. I just deleted my account and feel already better.

Thanks again.

[warrioraja]

@aganito You're right. A lot of times the things people write on Facebook are a way for them to feed their own ego. It has nothing to do with interacting with others in a genuine way. Good for you on deleting your account and letting go of that unnecessary load. :-)

[blackchallice]

Here are my 2 cents. Some people want the ability to look at your profile and pictures without interacting with you (superficiality?). Some people love the attention so they update their activities every few minutes/hours. Seriously, this is a sad way to exist. These two cases highlight the phenomenon that though we're surrounded by many people, we're empty and lonely inside. Facebook (+ other media) become our way to reach out to fill that void inside. Now I try to take time to talk to people!

[warrioraja]

@blackchallice Thanks for your insight. People love to use FB as a way to avoid having to really develop and maintain relationships with people. And they then use the excuse of shyness or whatever else to not keep in touch. When I looked deep down, I realized that I was using it to help myself feel as though all my FB "friends" really cared. It feels good to let that go. I'm glad you have let it go as well. TRUE friends know how to keep in touch and they'll be there. Many blessings! ~Aja

[blackchallice]

A couple of friends posted on my wall "Miss you. Hope to see you soon" when we haven't met for nearly half a year. I wrote back "You have my cell phone number. You know where I live. Why don't you call me or drop by?" These two people live 7 minutes away. No calls for a few more months. When we bumped into each other, I confronted them and all they had to say was "Oh I'm shy". It's pathetic that they aren't shy to post on my wall for people to see but are shy to make a social visit/call.

[orthodon2011]

I agree with you 150% re superficial nature of Facebook. There are people who won't call me to say hello and want me to join Facebook.

I received a friend request from a distant cousin who I never hear from otherwise. I turned it down-she's angry

3 years ago I received a Facebook friend request or tagging site request and the person who made the request who is the mother of my godchild won't speak to me because I won't get involved in her web social networking aura. Now that's pathetic!

[primalhippie]

I have deactivated my FB 3 times, for the reasons you shared. The reason I go back though is cause I do have family all across the country and it's a very convenient way to keep in touch, share pictures, etc. I'm torn, on one hand I don't want to keep up on relationships that are only binded together by facebook. But on the other hand, I'm a stay at home Mom, I have 6 kids, I don't have much time to build and maintain deep meaningful relationships. :/ but I do genuinely care for my FB friends.

[rhinomn]

I agree 100%. I have done the same as you. I am sure we are not the only ones deleting FB. Your a nice person so dont waste your time on FB with people that dont want a two way relationship. I figure if they cant call me or invite me screw em. Its a waste of time. Delete it wait 14 days and its all gone. Move on.

[osmmanipadmehum]

i almost deactivated my fb account.. first i was proud of that i had more than 350 people in my list, then i was getting annoyed that i had so many people that i actually didnt really like, so one day i deleted all my friends on fb, i got to 0 friends, but fb started complaining so i added 2-3 friends... now i use fb only to follow some groups..

[Psa1mist9]

AMEN

[newnikky09]

We are so alike with this face book thing and people being in touch. My account is deactivated.I log in when i need to check something or someone's birthday and stuff. I hate superficial relationships and that seems to be the bane of face book. People posting things for their ego and commenting on your every post but in real life, you barely sit down to have a chat. When i got off face book, i realized people i actually cared to be in touch with. My blackberry messenger serves same purpose.