Eye Contact!

To all my little bitches who wanted so bad for me to talk about eye contact. ;) Please, please respond, whether it be text or video. Let's start a thread on this, because I'm really interested in it. I want as much insight as possible

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[vinespin]

Important question, should I look in left eye, right eye, switch eyes, look at both?

I'm all over the place because wouldn't it be rude to not look away and keep staring?

[thedarkener]

@vinespin I don't think it's a matter of which eye.. Since I made this video I've learned a lot (and am still learning) about eye contact. I think what you have to do is truly understand WHY you're looking into their eyes (to make a human connection), and the rest will become apparent. It just takes practice I think. Staring is intimidating. Just be casual, and really LISTENING to them is important. I feel like when I make eye contact, I can tell what they're thinking, and vise versa.

[StelmariaonE7]

Wow...It is something I feel, and have felt. When I was younger, my eyes would seek out and fixate on others eyes. It was strange...well at least I think it is now. Even though I was shy I was always taught to look someone in the eye when talking. But, I dunno but I felt others eyes become uncomfortable under my gaze, and people ask me outright "why do you stare like that?" so eventually I associated eye contact with awkwardness, and now avert my eyes so I don't make others uncomfortable.

[thedarkener]

This is such an important part of our culture... I want to do a video on music, dancing, singing, etc to almost follow up on this one. I have recently really started wondering why, as a child, you love watching things like sing-along cartoons, but when you get older, say 12-13 (at least was for me), it starts becoming very embarrassing to express yourself in that kind of way. It's almost like our current society has conditioned us to feel awkward at the thought of singing in front of people.

[Neanderthalcouzin]

This is a challenging video, and very affective.

You ask 'why' towards the end, well let me throw in that it's a basic self-preservation, safety response, similar to flight or fight. Even other primates do it, monkeys do it, chimps also. Next time you're on a bus, train, etc, notice how no-one really looks others in the eye.

By the end of this video I was no longer freaked out, know why? Cos as you said, it's about trust and you seemed very sincere and trustworthy.

[thedarkener]

I think you're totally right - it is engrained in our instinct to avoid it with potentially untrustworthy or dangerous people. What I think is interesting is that if you disregard that potential "dangerous" situation, and look at people in the eyes anyway, you gain a hell of a lot of confidence. I feel like since I did these videos in 2006/7, I've got more confidence than I ever thought I could have had back then.

Thanks for bringing me back to this vid. It's been a while since I watched it.

[alcoholismrecovery]

when I look into people's eyes I freeze with fear because I find it so difficult and therefore the conversation never flows with the versatility of how I would talk to someone over the phone, for example.

It has been something which has dominated my day to day life for a long time. Im constantly thinking that they can see the fear in my eyes and i just have to look away. I stop myself from allowing a conversation to flow freely, all because of eye contact. It can actually feel numbing sometimes

[bilbo317]

oh it cut off

[bilbo317]

good job

[vinespin]

@vinespin oh and which eye do you look into?

[redpaul79]

@winstono75 i agree--as Bob Dylan says: "I aint lookin for nothin in anyone's eyes"

[redpaul79]

i find the whole speaking to and staring into cameras all alone thing rather creepo and sad,

to be honest

[annaisohsogroovy]

It's weird that I came across this video. I'm 15 and have been becoming much more self aware, and in doing so, realized that I have major eye contact problems. But I don't know why. Though I'm thankful I did realize it b/c I never knew how important eye contact is. This sounds strange, but I never knew people had conversations without breaking eye contact because I'm so used to not looking at the person to be able to know that. I'm very confused with what this means about myself. /:

[winstono75]

When it comes to people who rely more on their inner senses, the eyes aren't a window into the soul. They aren't really disclosing anything with their eyes.