self-esteem and what it is

Thank you for all the wonderful comments, love and support I got in my last video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A65ZGZ3OjDA
This video is about self-esteem and self-worth - what it is and how to get it.
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[SupaAmi]

I enjoyed most of this video, particularly the part you read from the book... but I think you are being a bit harsh and unfair to people in the closet. I understand the pain your ex might have caused you, I don't know the full story, but I agree you ARE better than him, because you were honest and you didn't deceive him.. However to tell people in the closet that they are all selfish cowards for not coming out, regardless of what their situation is, is unfair.

[SupaAmi]

@SupaAmi It's hard for everyone yes, but it's even harder for some. Much harder. They might be surrounded by people who they know would never approve. Maybe even risking to be disowned by their own family.

You did it and you took a great risk and kudos to you for doing it, it has obviously made you feel better about yourself. I think all gay people should come out, I wish they all could. I just think it should be up to everyone to come out when they are ready, without any pressure.

[phunkybrats]

@SupaAmi I totally agree with you and it's true people need to come out when they are ready. Coming out isn't something you can jump into and not mess it up. However, in some cases a closeted person may feel that they don't need to come out or can work around not having to come out. This is when it becomes twisted and people including the closeted person gets hurt.

[phunkybrats]

@SupaAmi It really isn't unfair to say that someone who is lying about their identity to others is selfish. Perhaps I could have used the word cruel because it's also that. Looking back to my coming out and before that I can say that I was selfish and cruel and a coward. My life reflected all those things in the way I treated people, the thoughts I had about myself and what I had to do to 'stop' the feelings I was having. True, I'm generalizing and not all people think or feel the way I do.

[cosmobud]

Thank you for this! I so needed to see this today!I want that book!

[phunkybrats]

@cosmobud the book deals with everything from self-esteem to different level of anger and has great exercises to work through problems I definitely suggest to anyone to go out and get it. Feeling Good: the new mood therapy by David D. Burns M.D.

If you need someone to talk to about this shoot me an email...always glad to help where I can.

[cosmobud]

Your a dear!Thanks so much :)