Just come out of the closet....

I was driving home from my sister's house and I was thinking about the ballot box and people being honest about their sexuality. I am sure that if gay people were honest and at least came out to their family and friends and coworkers..then things would be a lot different. I am not saying to wear a rainbow button that says "I'm GAY!"..just be honest to the people who you consider close to you.
Some of the most homophobic people out there are actually gay themselves. They are the ones that are writing nasty remarks on these sites and quoting the bible The fact that they are here is very telling..straight people don't go into these sites.
You are who you are..just be honest. I am so angry at myself because I spent my 20's alone...my friend in Florida works with a guy who is in his mid 50's and just came out!!! Trust me..at any age it is worth it... Honesty is always the best... Being gay is soooo not a choice and I get so angry at people who preach this! What is the old saying..something like "Walk a mile in my shoes....?" Please don't take it to the grave....
Take care YouTubers!
Jim

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[OKflaMAN]

Jim , you are so cool.I enjoy you video post .You have a lot to say !

[stoner829]

@OKflaMAN Thanks OK..that nasty closet needs to be gone. Nobody should have to live in it.

[PaintedRavensong]

Great vlog!!! Yes, I have only officially been out for two years, but the toxicity of the closet nearly killed me (quite literally). Now I have been feeling much like you mention here. Like I have started a completely new life two years ago. And, of course, in retrospect, I wish that I was thirty like you when I came out. I'm 45 now. But, hey...better late than never I always say...heheh Nice to meet you!

[stoner829]

@PaintedRavensong Thanks!! At least you did not take it to the grave like so many have done in the past. I think we are seeing that nonsense begin to disappear. People need to be who they are and not live a lie.

[CountryComesToTown]

Great video Jim. I watched this months ago but wanted to come back and watch it again after seeing your comment on the OutLateButGreat channel. -Jim

[stoner829]

@CountryComesToTown Thanks Jim!! (You have such a cool name! :) ) I probably should do another vid. I never did an actual "coming out" vid. My story is pretty lame..no drama. My only regret is that I spent my 20's alone and in the closet. You can never get that time back. I hope by the time I am an old man that we ALL will have equality and the closet door will forever off its hinges...

Thanks for your comment!

Jim

[MrHeslopian]

@stoner829 Not sure I'd like that as I've always been cripplingly shy and a bitter pessimist, but it does sound like a lovely idea! As for my "process", I think I'll hold onto my 'dark' secret until I'm no longer financially dependant on the old bastard, but I did have a kind of epiphany recently where I suddenly realised that, one day, when the time is right, I WILL tell him and fuck the consequences. I felt so good after that that I actually started laughing. Thanks for an awesome video, BTW.

[MrHeslopian]

I have a weird scenario where all my friends know I'm gay but none of my family do. And because I keep my social and familial lives so separate it's easy to maintain that lie. I keep it up for purely practical reasons at the moment. If my father threw me out I could go and live with my mother, but it would be so much harder to manage my life from her place. I remember I used to feign homophobia to impress my father, but I stopped doing that simply because I ceased to care what he thought of me.

[csifriendsscrubsfan]

Thanks that helped a lot! I agree with everything you said :) And I love how you are just making a video while driving lol x

[anayah777]

Jim, I really Love your video. Thank you so very much for making such a beautiful difference. ♥

[herdfan1990]

Good video... I live in Akron and work in Beachwood. Nice to see someone who knows what is happening. I was 37 or so when I came out. I am now 43. It is amazing what we did to lie about who we truly are. AMEN about the religious right

[stoner829]

@ericos Thanks! Just don't wreck the car! :)