Getting Past Hating Your Body

My response to a viewer question:

"But what about hating my body? How can I cope with this??? This is the major issue in my life. Strarving myself always ends by a huge binge and I feel like a total failure. I know it's stupid but I feel that only if I can be smaller and get rid off all this body fat (hips, bott, and stuff), I can be happy. How can I make it a little bit easier?"

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• anorexia
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• bulimia
• binge eating
• orthorexia
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• weight
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• clothing

[FamilyTree89]

i like the practical advice, not just 'get over it' and getting rid of scales actually does work xx

[arielleleebair]

Thanks! :) Appreciate it!

[Lovesenduringpromise]

Your so inspiring to me. I am in recovery, have been for over a year, haven't done behaviors in a year and don't have the strong desire I used to...but still deal with hating my body....

I cut tags from my clothing, and it is very helpful...less triggering to have to see the number everytime I put them on.

I found this video very very helpful. You have really worked so much on your recovery!!

[arielleleebair]

Thanks so much. It's so good to hear that you are doing well. I'm glad you found the video helpful. Recovery is a long and rocky road. Keep it up! <3 Thanks again for the kind words.

[Stephitza]

Great video, Arielle! Thanks for such positive messages, sweetie. Hope you are doing well!

[arielleleebair]

You're quite welcome! Glad you found it helpful. I'm well. Hope you are too! :)

[pokemonprincess1988]

I am not saying that I don't understand eating disorders, either because I had Bulimia for 2 years. This is because I actually struggle with being overweight. If I eat more than 1,600 calories a day I balloon up to about 155lbs and I am only 5'3. My fat is ALL around my back, boobs, arms and belly. I have stick thin legs and a flat bum.

Until a girl who has REAL problems with what she looks like I won't bother listening. I don't want to sound mean and harsh I am just being honest.

[pokemonprincess1988]

You don't need to worry about the way you look. You are thin, you don't need glasses, you indicated weight on the hips, bum and thighs so I'm assuming you are pear shaped (much healthier and much more attractive than being apple shaped), you have nice hair, you have nice teeth.

I'm sorry to sound harsh but it's easy for you to say all this because you're pretty and deep down you know you are.

[olivegoddess1]

You are AWESOME.

[Shriyogihoops]

found this helpful

[ByeByeBelly]

You are so cute!

[theblueeyedgirl96]

i like the im not a number im not a sizes that actually true :)

x x x

[littlefurballs]

I also liked your advice on clothing. Now that I've given up on purging my food, I've tried to focus on other things that make me like my appearance. I actually love makeup right now, as it helps to accentuate my best features. Also, I love dresses/skirts but always felt my bottom was too large or my legs too fat. So, I have found dresses/skirts that make me feel comfortable. BTW...I LOVE YOUR DRESS!! :)

[littlefurballs]

It's nice to see beautiful, insightful, young women encouraging others to love themselves for who they are. It was a lot worse when I was in my 20s, but I'm 35 now and the hatred of my body still lingers on. I have more priorities in my life (like my loving husband, my job, my animals, etc) that make me focus less on my body than I used to. But, I still have periodic bouts of pinching my fat and staring at the mirror wishing I was 10lbs skinnier and thinking that would make my lifea lil better

[Sia118]

its funny, i couldn't even tell you how this changed for me. i know that in an eating disorder yo uwill NEVER find body satisfaction... no matter how much you change your body. for me, eating regularly, and being a healthy weight, all increased my chances of liking my body. the rest; i had to work at it. i had to take the pressure of my "body" and focus on a whole. i had to learn to love the different aspects. i had to let others love my body. it was about self love and acceptance xxx

[trustmeican]

awesome video! i really enjoyed it a ton! ur so inspriational! and beautiful! ur totally proof that you can be healthy and absolutely gorgeous at the same time. u look amazing, and seem like u have came such a far way! thats awesome! one day, i really hope to be like you! one day.

[ppllovingtreehugger]

Great video. Really great. You are such a bright, sweet person! Keep doing what you're doing, and know that you are really making a difference to at least one person out here in youtubeland. :-)

[EdieAlyss]

This is such a brilliant video - thank you xxx

[arielleleebair]

Thanks so much. That means a lot to me. I'm so glad you find my words helpful. Best wishes to you too, dear!

[cob22735]

Arielle you are an amazing person. You have made such a positive difference to my recovery. Please acknowledge that your wise words are helping so many sufferers of eating distress. A million thank yous to you and your quirky momma! Best wishes