An American Perspective on Arranged Marriage

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Inspired by a three part series on Arranged Marriages on National Public Radio (NPR).

For links to these creditors go to my website at http://alaivani.com/Blog/tabid/56/EntryID/275/Default.aspx

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[puffyclouddd1]

There not marrying the whole family! Just you so that takes away from having your own life with your spouse that is how you grow. I really love my parents but I wouldnt let them pick out the man I want to marry too weird.

[alaivani]

@puffyclouddd1 Arranged marriages have been common in many cultures up until the last 100 years. Arranged marriages are inexplicably linked to group culture. In a group culture, individual growth is not viewed in the same way as in an individualistic culture.

[Introspective91]

What if you are gay and your parents arrange a straight marriage? You would be miserable.

[alaivani]

@Introspective91 It's a good point. I haven't heard of a gay-alliance in an arranged marriage. There are many aspects to these issues regardless if we live in a society that encourages arranged marriage or love marriage (choose your own partner). In all societies people (regardless of sexual orientation) can feel compelled for a variety of reasons to marry people they aren't compatible with.

[puffyclouddd1]

Only God has the choice to bring two people together not the parents.

[priyochatterjee1]

@akissy as for the pizza issue i don't eat pizzas because they are very hard to find in my city in India but if i go to a big restaurant and i don't know what to order i will definitely ask the waiter about the most popular dish or the specialty or something like that before i give my order because i am not afraid to seek other peoples advice. good day to you as well.

[priyochatterjee1]

@akissy so did you make the operating system you are using to reply to this comment ? :-) unfortunately back on earth we mortals are not as talented in so many different areas as you are great goddess. so we live in things called societies and depend on one anothers expertise to meet our daily needs. as for the "Emotions, like LOVE start relationships" crap come to India and interview any old couple you will find decisions like marriage start love.

[akissy]

@akissy The other people have explained arranged marriage in a very satisfactorily way, so please just drop the subject. Your comparisons are not right, because this is a very personal issue. Let me ask you, though I won't answer to your answer: So, the pizza maker is an expert in pizza, would you ask him or her what type of pizza you should eat? I mean after all he IS an expert... that's the type of comparison you should've made. Good day.

[akissy]

@priyochatterjee1 I don't eat out, my stomach doesn't let me, thankfully I know how to cook burgers and pizzas and cakes and sweet bread and all sorts of things, I took a cooking class back when I was a little one, most of my clothing is made by myself since I'm a lolita and have very little money to spend on brand , the only thing I can't make yet is the fabric but I'm learning. But as I said, it's BS, because it is. Emotions, like LOVE start relationships, that you're bitter is not our problem

[priyochatterjee1]

@akissy so let me get this straight, you do everything by yourself ..you don't eat burgers or pizzas prepared by other people, you wear clothes which only you make yourself etc etc. you don't prove anything by calling my last comment BS. however if you say that you never have and will never let others take decisions on your behalf then you are lying.emotions always interfere when making rational decisions. most relationships that start with emotions end because of emotions.

[akissy]

@priyochatterjee1 Those questions don't apply to the subject at hand,and your last comment is just BS: if I marry I'll marry out of love, emotions are a HUGE part in a relationship, whether ppl like it or not.

[akissy]

@priyochatterjee1 You're asking the wrong girl. XD Usually I don't goto the doctor unless it's something I can't treat myself, like measels, or cancer, or stuff like that. I can't drive something if I haven't learned to drive it, and I usually take the bus because I can't drive a car, but I'm learning so one day I can drive myself around. And yeah, I'm learning electronics, at least the basics: paying somebody 200 pesos to repair my computer is just not worth it when I can learn to do it meself.